Psychology & Neurodiversity

Whatever you choose always choose the things that make you happy, Choose to stay with the people who make you laugh. Choose to do things that make you smile even if it’s weird things.

Choose to make crazy memories with friends, Choose the love that make your heart at peace, Don’t care about people’s opinions, Don’t care about who is saying “don’t do this”.

If something makes you happy, go for it.. Life is short. Choose whatever makes your soul happy.✨

“Sometimes writing a single line is enough to save your own heart.”

• -Clarice Lispector, A Breath of Life

Good morning ! 😀

Meet Ayah.
She posts videos online, that's not the point.
The point is the reactions...
Every day, women are scrutinised, criticised, victimised, sexualised, and expected to fit standards they never accepted or created.

Patriarchy isn't just upheld by men, it often survives through religion, culture, tradition, communities, families, social media, and even by the silence of those affected by it.

So here's the question...
If you know the rules were written before you had a voice, why keep playing by them ?

As a woman, how would you rewrite the narrative ?
What approach would you adopt ?
What beliefs, expectations, or double standards would you challenge first ?

This is a grown up conversation to find some possible projected future light at the end of the tunnel

There's no right or wrong answers, just searching and honest ones, please feel free to contribure by also maintaining respect to the tone towards all parties involved.

Does anyone else feel like they absorb every single emotion they read here? 🥺🥹

To be honest, as someone who carries a lot of empathy, scrolling through these posts on Jamaa can take a real toll on my mental energy.

It hits differently when I read about situations where I was once in their shoes, it’s like my heart instantly relives those moments all over again.

There are posts that I will literally ponder on for days.

That’s the thing about having high empathy, right? We instinctively absorb the experiences and emotions of others.

It’s a beautiful blessing, but a heavy curse at the same time.

I’m sure others who feel deeply can relate to this, how do you guys manage your energy? 🌿🍃

Responsibility to yourself means refusing to let others do your thinking, talking, and naming for you; it means learning to respect and use your own brains and instincts; hence, grappling with hard work.
~Adrienne Rich

I've studied behavior for the last 14 years, one of the most powerful statments that I see many use:
"Out of my experience/As a doctor of 20 years" or any variation of it=> mostly he wants to make you look at him as an authority on the matter, regardless if he really has experience or not or is it even a good experience or not, also he may use it unintentionally or knowingly that he is "tricking you" or creating an authority identity for himself.
How to diffuse it?
Simply say "I totally appreciate your experience, but can we look at this and consider how it may be different?"
Note:Ive used the same exact methodology in the first of the post, I presented you with I am an expert on behavior authority identity 😉.
Note 2:this is used by almost all marketing agencies, including "content creators".

I couldn't sleep again how to deal with anxiety? My heart literally burning the same feeling as when I burn my skin I dont know why I am this anxious any advice?

The greatest life skill is learning how to reset quickly.

Bad conversation? Move on.
Bad day? Rest and try again.
Bad decision? Learn from it and keep going.

Everyone falls. What matters is getting back up. Your life is bigger than one bad moment.

What are you running away from?

Lie about it, if you want to...

Research Paper: A Historical and Chronological Re-Evaluation of the Age of Lady Aisha (May Allah Be Pleased with Her) at the Time of Her Marriage## Objective and Scope

Canonical Hadith collections, most notably Sahih al-Bukhari—which, along with Sahih Muslim, represents the highest tier of authentic literature among the majority of Sunni scholars—record a universally transmitted narration through the scholar Hisham ibn Urwah. This narration states that the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) married Lady Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) when she was six years old, consummated the marriage when she was nine, and that she remained with him for nine years.
This paper does not seek to challenge established Islamic beliefs, nor does it aim to question the authenticity of the canonical collections of Hadith. Instead, its scholarly purpose is to re-examine the understanding of this specific narration through a comparative historical methodology, cross-referencing it with evidence found in the earliest Islamic historical sources.
This study presents a scholarly view adopted by a number of contemporary thinkers and scholars (such as Dr. Tariq Al-Suwaidan and Dr. Ahmed Karima), who argue that Lady Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) most likely entered the household of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) at approximately nineteen years of age, rather than nine.

First: The Historical and Logical Context

Lady Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) was renowned for her pioneering and pivotal roles in early Islam, her active participation in major historical events, and her exceptional intellectual maturity in jurisprudence and Hadith narration.
Furthermore, historical records indicate that Lady Aisha had been betrothed to Jubayr ibn Mut'im prior to her marriage to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). These social circumstances and her prior betrothal logically point to an age closer to full maturity and young adulthood, rendering the hypothesis of early childhood (the age of nine) highly unlikely.

Second: Chronological Evidence and Comparative Analysis (Relative to Asma bint Abu Bakr)

The established age gap between Lady Aisha and her elder sister, Lady Asma bint Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with them both), provides one of the strongest historical and mathematical arguments supporting this view:

1. Historical Consensus

Primary historical sources consistently record that Lady Asma was exactly ten years older than her sister Aisha.

2. Chronological Calculation

Year of Death: Biographical accounts state that Lady Asma passed away in the year 73 AH at the age of 100.
Age at the Time of Hijrah: By subtracting the year of her death from her total age (100 − 73 = 27), it becomes clear that Asma was 27 years old at the time of the Prophet's Migration (Hijrah).
Age at Consummation: The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) consummated his marriage with Lady Aisha in the second year after the Hijrah (2 AH), which means Asma’s age at that time was 29 years.
Aisha's Age Equation: Subtracting the ten-year age difference between the two sisters (29 − 10) indicates that Lady Aisha’s age when she entered the Prophet’s household was approximately 19 years old.

Third: A Critical Review of the Chain of Transmission (Hisham ibn Urwah)

Although the aforementioned narration is recorded in the most authentic books of Hadith, scholars of ‘Ilm al-Rijal (the science of narrator evaluation and criticism) have analyzed specific circumstances surrounding its primary narrator, Hisham ibn Urwah:

1. Memory in Later Life

Biographical and historical chronicles record that after Hisham ibn Urwah relocated from Madinah to settle in Iraq later in life, his memory and precision were no longer as sharp as they had been during his youth.

2. Perspectives of Hadith Critics

Some authoritative classical reference works—such as Mizan al-I'tidal by Imam al-Dhahabi and Al-Kamil fi Du'afa' al-Rijal by Ibn 'Adi—indicate that some of Hisham’s later narrations were affected by the natural process of aging. This potentially led to discrepancies or inadvertent errors regarding specific numerical details or dates, without undermining the core essence of the narration.

Primary References## 1. Biographical and Historical Works

Al-Tabaqat al-Kubra – by Ibn Sa'd.
Usd al-Ghabah fi Ma'rifat al-Sahabah – by Ibn al-Athir.
Siyar A'lam al-Nubala' – by Imam al-Dhahabi.
(Utilized for establishing the age gap between the two sisters and Asma’s age at the time of her death).

2. Sources on Prophetic Biography and General History

Sirat Ibn Hisham – by Ibn Hisham.
Tarikh al-Tabari (History of the Prophets and Kings) – by Imam al-Tabari.
(Utilized for verifying the chronology of the Hijrah and the date of the marriage).

3. Works of Narrator Evaluation and Criticism (Jarh wa Ta'dil)

Mizan al-I'tidal fi Naqd al-Rijal – by Imam al-Dhahabi.

• Al-Kamil fi Du'afa' al-Rijal – by Ibn 'Adi al-Jurjani.
  (Utilized for analyzing the precision and memory of Hisham ibn Urwah in his later years).

Conclusion

This paper offers an academic and historical perspective grounded in authoritative Islamic references. Its primary goal is to enrich scholarly discourse and broaden the understanding surrounding the circumstances of this event based on available evidence, without compromising the authority of the Sunnah or the foundational principles of Islamic law.
And Allah knows best.