Psychology & Neurodiversity

<CUSTOM_BOLD>#Psychology #Overthinking #Resilience #HumanNature #MJGA</CUSTOM_BOLD>
⚠️ CAUTION! Plz first watch the attached video, then read to better relate.
Psychologists in the room, hold your chai... ☕

Today I randomly came across a YT Short where a tour guide was explaining how canyons are formed. The comments were full of appreciation for how brilliantly he explained such a complex concept.
Incredible!!!

But wallahi… my mind went somewhere else entirely. I started wondering…

What if some people are formed the same way?

What if, over the years, they have been absorbing the harshness of life and of people, and they simply bury it beneath momentary or transactional moments of happiness?

A disappointment covered by hope.
A hurt covered by a smile.
A betrayal covered by a chance.
And the process repeats.

So, at some point, do we all need a wind in our lives?

A person. An event. A tragedy. A conversation.

Something that blows away the loose layers around us and allows us to see what we have actually become beneath everything we have been quietly absorbing.

But what if that wind never comes?
How miserable would it be to continue standing in a shape we never realised we had become?

And then I observed it from another lense.
How about if those very layers add to our resilience, our strength, and our kindness.

So, the wind would only uncover a form that years of trials have been shaping all along.

The cost is real. But so is the beauty that follows.

Why?

Those canyons become landmarks of history and geography.
People admire the canyon.
They photograph it.
They speak of its beauty.

But hardly anyone pauses to think about every storm, every flood, every season that helped shape it.

Maybe people are no different.

The trials, circumstances and setbacks that shaped you, my brothers and sisters, the VERY YOU will always remain alive within your own experiences. You will remember every wind that carved your heart, your soul.

But the world will usually see only the person you have become and not the journey that made you.

<CUSTOM_BOLD>Jo saaz se nikli hai, woh dhun sab ne suni hai,
Jo taar pe beeti hai, woh kis dil ko pata hai.</CUSTOM_BOLD>

May Allah swt help us become the best version of ourselves amidst every trial and tribulation. And if we have lost sight of who we truly are, may He swt send us the wind that helps us reflect, realign, and return to Him, inshaAllah...✍️ 🤲🩶

Now here's my question…
How did my mind end up here from a random geology video? 😭

Is there actually something in psychology for this kind of thinking, or have I developed a habit of finding metaphors in everything?

Should I be concerned? 👀

P.S. Before anyone diagnoses me… yes, I keep touching grass. 🌿😅

Maturity is understanding that people can see the same object from where they stand and see something different from what you see. Wisdom is trying to see the same reality from where those people stand. Once you understand this, you can avoid or resolve almost all your disputes with anyone..

If you’re a person that really enjoys celebrating holidays and birthdays, it’s very important that you date someone that does too. You will indeed suffer dating anything else, they won’t get it

I want a secured attached, matured man with strong personality for love and marriage. Not an immatured boy dictated by family.

whats difference between self-esteem and vanity and narcissism and grandiosity and egocenteric?!

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When you are an entrepreneur, some mornings you're forecasting your billion-dollar exit, and by the afternoon, you're deciding if you can afford your $20 lunch.

Before you begin your work, studies, or daily chores, pause to ask yourself,"Why am I doing this💯✅

𝑴𝑶𝑵𝑺𝑻𝑬𝑹 𝑹𝑬𝑫 𝑭𝑳𝑨𝑮 : 👇
Proposing to a Wife or Looking for a Life Sponsor?
By.‌🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌

That night,🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌'s phone screen lit up,reflecting blue light in his quiet room.A message came in the DIRECT MESSAGE column.His profile looked convincing,a man from a foreign country with a smile neatly placed behind a curation of aesthetic photos.At first,their conversation flowed like an afternoon drizzle : warm,soothing,and full of sweet promises.However,it didn't take long for 🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌ to realize that the drizzle was quickly turning into a storm of absurdity ready to destroy her common sense.

Suddenly,out of nowhere,the man sent a message that made 🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌
's forehead furrow deeply. "Marry me," he wrote.What should have been a romantic thrill turned into a barrage of nonsensical instructions.

"But I don't have a passport,and the bureaucracy in my country is very complicated.How about you take care of my visa?Or,wouldn't it be easier if you just bought a plane ticket,flew to my country,and we got married here?"

🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦 leaned back in her chair,staring at the screen in disbelief.She typed slowly with the last of her patience, "You asked me to marry you,but I have to be your personal travel agent?"

The man remained unmoved,as if love were all about sacrifice,of course,meaning sacrifice on 🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌'s part completely.When 🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌ tried to delve deeper into their future plans,the harsh realities began to peel away one by one.The man didn't even have his own house or a stable financial foundation in his own country.Instead of offering a solution,the man made an even more magical offer,as if he was giving a great gift to 🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌'s life.

"Okay,I'm willing to go to Indonesia. But on one condition : you'll cover all our wedding expenses.And oh,since I have to adapt to your country,I hope you don't mind covering my living expenses first."

‌🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌ stared at the message for a long time.His logic was spinning quickly,compiling a calculation he would never find in any math book : a husband's function,which should be a protector and breadwinner,has now turned into a new burden that he must pay for,from visa fees,tickets,wedding expenses,to daily food costs.The result of the calculation was clearly a big zero,even minus.

"THEN," whispered 🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌ into the silence of the room, "what is his function in my life?To be an aesthetic display that must be fed three times a day?"

When 🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌ finally straightened his back,took a deep breath,and typed the word "NO" with all the determination he had,the instant romance drama instantly turned into a horror story.The mask of a gentleman the stranger had been wearing instantly cracked into pieces.A wounded ego gave birth to a verbal monster.In that instant,the 🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌ chatroom was filled with judgments from A to Z.

"You're a materialistic woman!"
"You don't know how to appreciate true love!"
"A woman like you will grow old alone with your ridiculous standards!"

Insult after insult was sent like a missile, trying to destroy 🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌'s self-esteem,making him feel guilty for maintaining his sanity.However,🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌
simply smiled faintly before hitting the BLOCK button.

She knew very well that the man's anger wasn't because 🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌ was wrong,but because he had just lost a potential free donor whom he had almost exploited.Marriage isn't a social charity where a woman must register to be the sole sponsor of another person's life for the sake of a "fake marriage." When someone offers you a future but asks you to build it from scratch alone,remember ; you are looking for a life partner,not adopting a life burden.

"Writing is a way of sharing feelings.Your comments are its life,and your LIKES are its energy.Don't let this writing live without energy."😉😃❤️

You will CRYYYYYY soon not because someone hurt you, but because Allah answered your prayers