Hajj and Umrah

A Beautiful Marriage,

• Is not the Wedding where;

• -the bride is almost naked
• -the couples dance to the music
• -the sisters/mothers who’re almost naked, please the thirsty dudes around by shaking their bums & waist
• -the dinner/wedding is expensive
• -the couples blow candles

• The best Wedding(marriage) is that which

• -is most affordable
• -Everybody is modest
• -Shaytān is displeased
• -No music no dancing
• -No blowing candles
• -No inappropriate mixing of men & women
• -Everyth is Halal

This is pleasing Allah & Allah’ll help strengthen our Marriages

Again :some say.. That'll goal

The fact that Allah allows us to wake up to a new morning and try again is a beautiful reminder of His endless mercy

It’s funny,

During the courtship,

some ladies checklist for marriage will be

• Tall ✅
• Beard ✅
• Benz ✅
• Filthy rich ✅
• Handsome ✅
• work in abuja ✅ & co

That’s what matters for them, he’s/it's he

• -a womanizer
• -a drug addict
• -no manners & co, she doesn’t care

Later after they’re married & things go south they’ll come to social media and other places to make threads & diaries how unfortunate men are!

• -They’ve to be!

Same apply to guys/brotherhood too.

This’ll be like that, until we change our mindset & follow the Islamic teachings

IT’S FUNNY HOW SOME PEOPLE CHOOSE A SPOUSE… THEN COMPLAIN ABOUT THE CONSEQUENCES.

Let’s be honest with ourselves for a moment. This is a reality we need to talk about in our Muslim communities.

During courtship, some sisters have a checklist for the man they want to marry:

• -Tall ✅
• -Beard ✅
• -Benz ✅
• -Filthy rich ✅
• -Handsome ✅
• -Working in foreign,abroad, african✅
  -working in big company, factory etc
• -Expensive lifestyle ✅
  -etc more

Everything looks perfect on paper. 🤦🏽‍♂️

But what if he is a womaniser? What if he abuses drugs? What if he has terrible manners, no sense of responsibility, no respect for women, and no fear of Allah?

Sometimes, these serious warning signs are overlooked because his appearance, money, status, or lifestyle is too attractive to ignore.

Then marriage comes.

The same things that were ignored before marriage become the very things someone complains about afterwards. Suddenly, social media is filled with threads, diaries, heartbreak stories, and complaints about how unfortunate their marriage has been.

But why were the warning signs ignored in the first place?

Of course, nobody can predict everything about another person. Some people hide their true character, and some genuinely change after marriage. We must never blame someone for being deceived, abused, or mistreated.

But we must also learn to make wiser choices before committing our lives to someone.

And before anyone thinks this message is directed only at women, let me make something clear:

The same applies to men., 📌📌

Some brothers will overlook a woman's character because she is beautiful, has a particular body shape, dresses attractively, or comes from a wealthy family.

They will ignore dishonesty, arrogance, poor manners, and a lack of religious commitment simply because they are attracted to her.

Later, when the marriage becomes difficult, they begin asking questions they should have asked before the nikah.

Dear brothers and sisters,, 🗣️🗣️

what exactly are we looking for in a spouse?

Are we looking for someone who will impress our friends, or someone with whom we can build a peaceful home?

Are we looking for a Benz, a beautiful face, and a luxurious lifestyle, or someone who will stand beside us when life becomes difficult?

Are we more concerned about how our future spouse looks in public than how they behave in private?

What happens when the money finishes? What happens when beauty changes with age? What happens when life brings illness, financial difficulties, disappointment, and responsibilities?

Will the things that attracted you still be enough to sustain your marriage?

Islam does not forbid you from being attracted to your spouse or appreciating wealth, beauty, and compatibility. These things can matter. But they should never blind you to character, responsibility, and religious commitment.

The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ taught us to give serious consideration to religious commitment when choosing a spouse. In the authentic hadith concerning a woman's marriage, he mentioned wealth, family status, beauty, and religion, and encouraged choosing the one with religion.

📚 (Sahih al-Bukhari 5090; Sahih Muslim 1466)📖

This is not permission to ignore compatibility, attraction, or good treatment. Rather, it reminds us not to let worldly attractions become more important than the qualities that help sustain a righteous marriage.

A beard does not automatically make a man righteous. A hijab does not automatically reveal a person's entire character. Wealth does not guarantee responsibility, and poverty does not mean someone lacks good character.

Look deeper. Ask questions. Observe behaviour. Consult trustworthy people who know the person. Involve your family and wali where appropriate. Do not rush because of pressure, attraction, or fear of losing an opportunity.

And remember: religious appearance is not a substitute for good character. Someone's treatment of others, honesty, self-control, and willingness to accept responsibility matter too.

Our Muslim communities will continue to struggle with avoidable marital problems if we keep prioritising appearances over substance and social status over character.

We cannot demand righteous spouses while refusing to work on our own righteousness.

We cannot keep asking Allah for a peaceful marriage while deliberately overlooking serious warning signs.

And we cannot expect a successful marriage simply because a wedding ceremony was beautiful.

We need to change our mindset. We need to return to the Qur’an and authentic Sunnah, not merely in what we recite and post, but in how we choose, how we behave, and how we treat one another.

Choose wisely. Investigate responsibly. Make istikharah. Seek sound advice. Trust Allah, and take the necessary precautions.

Marriage is not a competition to see who can secure the richest husband or the most beautiful wife.

It is a serious commitment between two human beings who will answer to Allah for how they fulfil their responsibilities.

May Allah grant our brothers and sisters spouses of sound faith, beautiful character, wisdom, mercy, and responsibility. May He protect us from deception, guide us towards wise decisions, and bless our marriages with tranquillity and barakah.

Before you ask Allah to give you the right spouse, ask yourself whether you are looking for the right qualities—and whether you are preparing yourself to be a good spouse too.

Wallahu A‘lam.

And Allah knows best.

When my heart broke, 🥺
I remembered Hazoor ﷺ, 💚
When tears fell, I remembered Hazoor ﷺ.

Thinking that I was all alone, When I wept, I remembered Hazoor ﷺ.

Who is there to preserve my faith every time?
Whenever I pondered, I remembered Hazoor ﷺ. ❤️

RAMADAN 1448 AH IS APPROACHING

ARE WE READY TO MEET IT?

103 days left…

Dear brothers and sisters in Islam,

Ramadan is approaching, but the question is: Are we truly preparing for it, or are we just counting the days?

We keep saying, “When Ramadan comes, I will repent. When Ramadan comes, I will start praying on time. When Ramadan comes, I will leave my sins behind. When Ramadan comes, I will become a better Muslim.”

But who promised us that we would live long enough to see Ramadan?

This is the reality we often forget.

Some people who fasted with us last Ramadan are no longer here. Some people who prayed beside us have returned to Allah. Some people who planned to witness another Ramadan never got the opportunity.

Death does not wait for our plans. It does not wait for us to become wealthy, get married, travel abroad, or achieve our dreams. When our appointed time comes, we will return to Allah.

So why do we keep delaying our repentance? Why do we postpone our prayers? Why do we continue committing sins while telling ourselves that we will change tomorrow?

Tomorrow is not guaranteed.

My dear brothers and sisters,

do not let this reminder frighten you into despair. Let it awaken your heart before it is too late. Fear Allah, but never lose hope in His mercy. Worry about your Hereafter enough to take action, but trust in Allah enough to keep moving forward.

Do not wait for Ramadan to begin changing your life. Start now.

Repent sincerely. Guard your five daily prayers. Return to the Qur’an. Give up the sins you know are displeasing to Allah. Seek forgiveness from those you have wronged, and fulfil the rights of others.

Remember, Ramadan is a precious opportunity, not a guarantee that we will be alive to experience it.

Allah says:☝️

“And worship your Lord until there comes to you the certainty (death).”

📖Qur’an 15:99📚

May Allah allow us to reach Ramadan 1448 AH in good health, forgive our sins, strengthen our iman, guide our families and the entire Ummah, and grant us a beautiful ending.

May Allah not make us among those who only realise the value of time after their time has expired.

Prepare before Ramadan. Repent before death. Return to Allah before you are returned to Him.

Allah knows best. 🤲🏽

I will never stop saying this: being real is not permission to be cruel; being hurt is not permission to backbite; being angry is not permission to humiliate someone; and having the perfect comeback does not mean you need to say it. A soft tongue requires strength, too.

Never forget that Allah sees you, hears you, and knows every struggle you carry in your heart. You don’t have to be perfect to be a good Muslim woman. You just have to keep turning back to Him, keep trying, and keep your heart sincere.

Bismillah mekka i will come back

In Islam, No one can help another person enter Jannah more than a Husband and Wifeeeee can help each other!!💑🦋💝