Mental health

I don’t want you back anymore… I just wish the memories didn’t still know how to find me.

Long Vent

Ghosting is talked about all the time on this app and I never take it personally when an internet stranger ghosts me. I see it as them not being ready for marriage and them doing me a favour. However, experiencing ghosting from family friends is something else.

Vent about friend

I had an incident where I unintentionally hurt a close friend and she ghosted me. I reached out to her several times and I was clearly worried about her. My friend knew that I was worried about her and she still decided to ghost me. She was also very active on social media including Jamaa. I didn't know she was upset with me because she never told me.

She then only decided to reach out to me for some Jamaa gossip and drama that involved myself. (I'm not involved in drama but someone just sent screenshots of my public post that's still up to several groups on here and another article came out about a criminal on here that was previously interested me).

So, what happened was that I decided to confront this friend about what she had done, and she gave me several excuses to justify ghosting. I also told her that I can't read her mind and can't know what's wrong until she tells me.

Her excuses were:

"Why would I say that? Telling you I need space would be being too vulnerable. I didn't feel safe with you."

"You’re upset because you didn’t get the power to choose whether or not this friendship stayed alive for ended AFTER what you did That power was taken from you when I decided to stay silent. That's why you’re upset."

"I was choosing my own wellbeing. And whether you find that disrespectful for having self respect and walking away from a situation where I was being hurt or my feelings weren’t being considered Is perfectly healthy."

I can understand if someone was horrible and abusive... then even I would just ghost. Tbh I would just block and never speak to that person ever again but if a person has unknowingly hurt you (I didn't swear or put that person down). If someone had hurt me but not to an extreme extent, then I would be grown up enough to call them out on it. Let's say I did need space and didn't tell them that but they contact me a few times and are worried about me, I could never ghost that person. I would feel guilty because I know it doesn't feel nice. I would put my ego aside in that situation and tell my best friend "I just need a little space to think about things."

You can take space away from someone and look after you're own wellbeing whilst also not being selfish and considering other people's feelings. It literally takes two minutes to say "Sorry I just need some space" instead of keeping that person in the dark.

Vent about uncle

My Uncle has been ghosting my parents' calls and texts for a few months now. It has upset my parents a lot. Then on my birthday he messages me happy birthday. My parents are not happy because he can clearly be on his phone. Then he messages me a couple of days after asking if I'll be home the next day.

So the next day he comes to my house to give me a present and my Dad asks him why he hasn't replied to them and what he's done wrong. He says in an angry and rude tone "If you don't think you've done anything wrong, then you haven't. I just needed space."

So my Dad says "You could've told us that. You could've sent us a message to say that."

Then my uncle gets angry. He throws a tantrum and says this was a waste of time and he should have never come.

It's not the ghosting alone in these two incidents that frustrates me. It's the justifications that both my uncle and friend have given. They are both angry at me and my Dad for being unhappy with them and then making us the blame or the problem. We are the ones at fault for being upset for being ghosted.

How do these grown adults not understand that ghosting is so upsetting and hurtful? To this day both my friend and my uncle have not apologised for this. I thought this is one of the most basic things that everyone universally knows is not okay.

let go

Let go and let Allah SWT in.

Growth doesn't come from nowhere. It comes from learning our experiences both good and bad.

And most of the time it's in hindsight and looking back our past we realise we wouldn't be the resilient person we are today if it wasn't due to our old chapters in life.

Embracing the new us and knowing that it's okay if some days prove difficult than others and that we may have our moments,

but at the end of the day we pick up ourselves and keep moving simply because we let go and let Allah SWT in, The All- Aware, The All-Knowing & The All-Powerful / The Capable, alhamdulillah.

May Allah SWT grant healing to anyone tested in their mental health and take us back to Him in the best of health and eman ameen 🌿

💙 الحمدلله
Astaghfiru'Allah 🤍 📿

# let go and let Allah in
# Names of Allah
# growth ✨️
# Dua
# One Ummah ☪️

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May Allah SWT grant healing to anyone tested in their mental health and take us back to Him in the best of health and eman ameen 🌿

💙 الحمدلله
Astaghfiru'Allah 🤍 📿