Mental health

Is an umbrella a personal force field against the weather?

I need psychologist please listen to me

Only a heart that has known darkness,
can recognize the sacredness of light.

I'm a very positive person. I don't like to express my bad feelings to anyone, but today I'm really upset, tired, and my zest for life is gone, along with a strange amount of sadness, for no reason…

Everyone here looking for a partner while I’m just looking for a friend lol 😂 as I don't have irl💔

Sometimes we say: “Look at my heart, not how i look or what I have financially.”

But then I think: do we offer the same mercy to others? Do we also look beyond their appearance? Do we also consider their intentions?Do we also remember that they are human beings trying to find their way?

It is easy to ask others to understand our heart. It is harder to have the humility to examine our own. A sincere heart does not only ask to be understood. A sincere heart also learns to understand.

Thats a life task by itself. How can you become a wife or husband or even parent, without managing the basics? I dont understand.

Bismillah
Assalamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barahkatuh 😊

When a woman has spent years healing her own wounds and quietly building a life that feels completely safe, her peace becomes her absolute most valuable possession.

She didn't find this calm state by accident; she fought through deep heartbreak, survived toxic situations, and learned how to be entirely happy on her own. Because she knows exactly how much pain it cost to build this peaceful sanctuary, she is fiercely protective of who she allows inside it.

An immature man completely misunderstands this high level of strength. He assumes he can bring his drama, inconsistency, and silly games into her life without any real consequences. But a woman who has found her true peace has absolutely zero tolerance for disrespect. The very moment he brings unnecessary stress into her world, she will firmly shut the door. She doesn't need to argue, cry, or yell; she simply removes his access to her life.

Being with a woman like this requires a highly mature partner who is completely secure in himself. He must understand that her swift boundaries are not an unfair threat, but a strict standard of how she requires to be treated. She is not afraid to walk away and be alone again, because she already knows she thrives beautifully in her own company. To stay in her life, a real man must prove every single day that he is a valuable asset to her calm world, rather than a disruption to her hard-earned peace.

@Its_Airin

There are moments when I cry for hours over my religion.
Not because I don't believe in Allah. But because I want to believe with my whole heart, and sometimes it feels like we've made the path to him so complicated.

I don't want to spend my life drowning in interpretation after interpretation, opinion after opinion, argument after argument. Sometimes I just want the basics. I just want to know god. I just want a sincere connection with Allah.

Instead, I often feel lost.

Every direction points somewhere else. Everyone seems certain they hold the truth. And somewhere in all that noise, people forget the heart of the one who is searching. Because it feels somerhing in our community is missing. All my concerns and posts are based on this basic feeling- i get frustrated why things are as they are. No emotion, no connection no deep thoughts. This is one of the moat difficult things to accept for a heart wishing purity.

Do you know how easy it is for a heart to become tired? To stop asking because every question becomes another debate?
Keeping a soft heart in this world is one of the hardest things I have ever done.

As a woman, there are days I wish I could simply sit in a mosque, read the Qur'an, make du'a, and find peace in the house of Allah. Because sometimes home is too loud, and my soul just wants to be where His name is remembered. Simple nothing more.

What breaks me most is not Islam.
What breaks me is how divided we have become.

Sometimes I wonder how many people quietly walked away, not because they rejected Allah, but because they became exhausted by us.
We carry a responsibility, and it seems like we forget that.

How can we think about children, while not even having worked on our own souls?
How can a man think of marriage without working first on his character?
How can we spent so much food and money on parties, while there are wars and children withour food?

All of my posts ahould be placed under this frustration on how the world is now.

I truly wish god would take all of the things in my life away, just to not loose this view.
So that today is stand with my thoughts with sincerity, but maybe tmrw my soul will be tired.

Hi

You don’t need to be “fixed” to be loved. In fact being accepted as you are is what facilitates healing
Carl Rogers

Being accepted as you are, and kindly guided / corrected when you make a mistake.