Ramadan

BROTHER,

BEFORE YOU DO SOMETHING FOR YOUR CRUSH OR GIRLFRIEND,... DON'T FORGET YOUR MOTHER AND SISTER AT HOME.

📌 Before you spend your money trying to impress a woman you are not married to, remember the mother who sacrificed so much for you and the sister who deserves your care and respect.

📌 Before you stay awake all night chatting with your girlfriend, ask yourself whether you have given your mother the attention, kindness, and respect she deserves.

📌 Before you buy expensive gifts to make another woman happy, remember that your mother may need something from you, too.

📌 Before you make promises to a woman you are not married to, remember the promises of responsibility you owe your family.

SubḥānAllāh!

Some brothers will go out of their way to impress a girlfriend but struggle to do the smallest things for their own mothers.

They have money for gifts, but not for their mother's needs.
They have time for romantic conversations, but barely have time to check on their families.
They know how to make a girlfriend smile, but forget to appreciate the woman who raised them.

Dear brother, what happened to your priorities?

This is not about hating women or refusing to be kind to someone you care about. It is about understanding responsibility, respecting your parents, and keeping your relationships within the boundaries of Islam.

☝️ Allah says:

وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا

“And show kindness to parents.”

📖📚 Qur'an 17:23📖📚

Your mother is not asking you to neglect everyone else. Your sister is not asking you to hate other women. But do not become so desperate to impress someone that you forget the people Allah has already placed in your life.

And remember, brother: your mother and sister deserve respect not merely because they are your relatives, but because they are human beings who deserve dignity and good treatment.

Be generous, but be wise. Show kindness, but maintain Islamic boundaries. And before you chase someone's attention, make sure you are not neglecting your responsibilities.

Fear Allah, my brother. Treat people well, honour your parents, and put your priorities in order.

May Allah make us among those who fulfil their responsibilities, honour their parents, protect their families, and treat others with good character.

Āmīn. 🤲🏽

Just reminder.

DEAR SISTERS, CAN WE HONESTLY TALK ABOUT THIS?

Do you sometimes look at your fellow sister and ask yourself:

“Can I advise her? Will she listen? Or will she think I hate her?”

Sister, please don't wear this.
Sister, your dress is too tight.
Sister, your clothes are transparent.
Sister, your body curves are clearly visible.
Sister, your chest is showing.
Sister, your neck and shoulders are exposed.
Sister, your hair is showing.
Sister, your makeup is extremely noticeable.
Sister, this outfit reveals more than it covers.
Sister, please reconsider the pictures you're posting.
Sister, do you really need to upload that video?
Sister, what is the purpose of displaying your body like this?
Sister, are you dressing to please Allah or to attract people's attention?

And sometimes, you honestly don't even know how to approach the person. 😭

You don't want to offend her.
You don't want her to misunderstand you.
You don't want her to call you jealous.
You don't want to be labelled as someone who is always judging others.

So you remain silent, even when you genuinely feel concerned.

But, dear sister, let me ask you something:

BEFORE YOU LEAVE YOUR HOUSE, DO YOU CHECK YOURSELF PROPERLY IN THE MIRROR?

Do you check whether your clothes are transparent?
Do you check whether your dress is too tight?
Do you check whether the shape of your body is clearly visible?
Do you check whether your outfit actually provides the coverage you intended?
Do you consider whether your makeup and overall appearance align with the modesty you want to practise?

Sometimes, what looks beautiful to you in front of your bedroom mirror may look very different under bright sunlight or in another setting.

Please, take a moment to check.

I'm not saying this because I believe I'm better than anyone. We all have shortcomings, and we all need reminders.

But we cannot keep talking about modesty while refusing to examine our own choices.

Allah commands believing women to guard their modesty and not display their adornment in the ways He has prohibited. (Qur'an 24:31)

And brothers, don't think this reminder is only for sisters. Allah also commands believing men to lower their gaze and guard their chastity. (Qur'an 24:30)

Now, let me be honest about something else.

Sometimes, a man is trying to lower his gaze. He is making an effort to avoid looking at what Allah has forbidden. But he may unexpectedly notice someone's revealing clothing or visible body curves.

He looks away, but the image has already caught his attention.

Astaghfirullāh. SubḥānAllāh.

This is one reason modesty matters. We should help one another obey Allah rather than make disobedience appear normal.

However, men are still responsible for their own gazes, regardless of how others dress.

DEAR SISTERS, THIS IS NOT ABOUT HATING YOU. IT IS ABOUT WANTING GOODNESS FOR ONE ANOTHER.

You can be beautiful and modest.
You can dress neatly without wearing revealing clothes.
You can take care of your appearance without making your body the centre of attention.
You can be confident without needing everyone's admiration.

And if another sister advises you privately and sincerely, don't immediately assume she is jealous of you. Consider what she says, examine the evidence, and accept the truth when it is correct.

Likewise, if you advise someone, do it gently. Don't humiliate her, insult her, or expose her mistakes publicly.

We are all servants of Allah. We all need His guidance. We all need His forgiveness.

May Allah grant our sisters genuine ḥayāʾ, beautiful character and modesty. May He help our brothers lower their gazes, purify our hearts and guide us all to what pleases Him.

Āmīn, yā Rabb. 🤲🏽

Allah knows best.

My dear sister, do not rush into love.

Do not allow loneliness to push you into a ḥarām relationship.

Do not allow the fear of growing older to make you settle for someone who does not fear Allah.

Do not compare your life with other sisters who are getting married, having children, or sharing beautiful moments with their husbands.

Your story is not their story, and their timing is not your timing.

Allah knows what you do not know. He knows your heart, your struggles, your tears, and the things you silently ask Him for in your duʿāʾ.

Remember that everything is written by Allah, and nothing escapes His knowledge.

☝️ The Prophet ﷺ taught Ibn ʿAbbās رضي الله عنهما:

“The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried.”

📖📚 Jāmiʿ at-Tirmidhī 2516📖📚

So, Ya Ukhti, be patient.

Protect your heart.
Protect your ḥayāʾ.
Maintain your boundaries.
Make duʿāʾ.
Work on your relationship with Allah.
And when you seek marriage, look for dīn and good character—not merely sweet words and temporary attention.

Do not chase someone who takes you away from Allah just because you are afraid of being alone.

If marriage is written for you, it will happen according to Allah's decree. If life unfolds differently from what you hoped, continue seeking His pleasure and trusting His wisdom.

You are not behind because you are unmarried.

Patience, Ya Ukhti! Patience!

May Allah grant you a righteous spouse if marriage is good for you, protect you from harmful relationships, and fill your heart with īmān, tranquillity, and contentment with His decree.

Āmīn, yā Rabb al-ʿĀlamīn. 🤲🏽

DEAR MUSLIM SISTERS,

DO YOU SOMETIMES ADVISE YOUR FELLOW SISTERS? 😢❤️

Do you ever sit with your friends and sincerely tell them:

📌 Sister, please don't wear that. Your clothes are too revealing.

📌 Sister, your dress is showing the shape of your body. Please reconsider it.

📌 Sister, your hair is exposed. Remember your hijab.

📌 Sister, this outfit is transparent. You can see through it.

📌 Sister, please don't post that picture. Think about your ḥayāʾ.

📌 Sister, why are you posting pictures that expose your beauty to everybody?

📌 Sister, please delete that video. You may receive attention today, but have you considered the consequences?

📌 Sister, you don't need to show your body to prove that you're beautiful.

📌 Sister, please stop posting pictures just to receive compliments from men.

📌 Sister, be careful with the men in your DMs. Not everyone who calls you beautiful has good intentions.

📌 Sister, please don't normalize flirting with non-maḥram men.

📌 Sister, don't let social media make you feel that you must expose yourself to be noticed.

📌 Sister, you can be fashionable without compromising your religious principles.

📌 Sister, you can be beautiful without displaying everything Allah has commanded you to cover.

📌 Sister, please don't feel embarrassed about practising your religion just because your friends are doing something different.

📌 Sister, remember that your worth is not measured by likes, followers, compliments or the number of men who admire you.

📌 Sister, don't let the fear of losing friends make you afraid of obeying Allah.

📌 Sister, if you have made a mistake, repent. Don't let Shayṭān convince you that you are too sinful to change.

📌 Sister, I am not better than you. I am reminding you because I want goodness for both of us.

AND MOST IMPORTANTLY:

📌 Sister, if I ever do something wrong, please correct me too.

📌 Sister, don't praise me in public while watching me destroy myself in private.

📌 Sister, let us remind one another of Allah, even when the reminder is uncomfortable.

📌 Sister, let us help one another enter Jannah rather than compete for attention in this dunya.

☝️ Allah says:

وَتَعَاوَنُوا عَلَى الْبِرِّ وَالتَّقْوَىٰ

“And cooperate with one another in righteousness and piety.”

📖 Surah Al-Mā'idah 5:2

Dear sisters, sincere advice is not hatred. Correcting someone does not mean you believe you are perfect. We all have shortcomings, and we all need reminders.

But remember: advise with wisdom, speak with kindness, protect one another's dignity, and never use religion as an excuse to humiliate another sister.

If you genuinely love your sister, don't encourage her in something you believe displeases Allah simply because you are afraid she might get angry with you.

And if your sister corrects you sincerely, don't automatically treat her as your enemy.

Sometimes, the person who reminds you of Allah is showing you a kind of love that social media cannot provide.

Let us become sisters who correct one another, pray for one another, conceal one another's faults, and encourage one another towards righteousness.

May Allah grant our sisters ḥayāʾ, modesty, wisdom and beautiful character. May He guide us all, forgive our shortcomings, and make us sincere advisers to one another.

Āmīn, yā Rabb. 🤲🏽❤️

Allah knows best.

HEY, BROTHER! 📌

📌 Before you hurt a woman, remember your mother and your sister.

📌 Before you play with her feelings, remember that she is someone's daughter.

📌 Before you deceive her, remember that she is a human being with a heart.

📌 Before you use her, manipulate her, humiliate her, or make her cry, ask yourself:

📌 Would you be happy if another man treated your mother or sister the same way?

📌 Before you promise her marriage when you have no sincere intention of marrying her, think twice.

📌 Before you lead her into sin, remember that you, too, will answer to Allah.

📌 Before you expose her private messages, pictures, or secrets, remember that betrayal is not a joke.

And before you break someone's heart for entertainment, remember that you are not beyond needing Allah's mercy yourself.

اتَّقِ اللَّهَ!

FEAR ALLAH! ❗☝️☝️☝️☝️

Women are not toys for your entertainment. Their feelings are not games. Their trust is not something to exploit.

Be a man of honesty, responsibility, good character and taqwā.

If you are not sincere, don't deceive her. If you don't intend to marry her, don't make false promises. And if you have wronged someone, repent sincerely and do your best to make things right.

Remember: your mother and sister deserve respect, and so does every other woman.

May Allah guide our brothers, protect our sisters, and grant us all good character.

Āmīn. 🤲🏽

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Human beings judge purely by outward appearances and can easily misinterpret your good deeds. However, Allah looks directly at your heart and rewards your sincere motives, saving you from the burden of having to prove yourself to others.

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What's one thing your avoidant said that you still think about? Mine was
"I never promised you anything."

Someone suddenly walks into our life. We don’t even want to give them a chance, yet they insist on getting one. They give us hope, make us believe in them, and make us trust them. And then, all of a sudden, they disappear without a trace. I guess that has become one of the core principles of this app these days. 💔