STOP CRYING ABOUT WOMEN MARRY FOR MONEY, I KNOW A MAN IS NOT AN ATM MACHINE, HE IS A PROVIDER IN A RELATIONSHIP, BUT IF A WOMAN IS ASKING YOU TO PROVIDE, PLEASE WORK ON IT INSTEAD OF BRAGGING

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Rahani Hussain

@Rockstarr1

24 days ago

People pleasers suffer the most.

Hear me out.

I do not mean kind people are weak.
I do not mean helping others is bad.
I do not mean you should become cold hearted and stop caring about people.

I mean this:

Some people become so used to making everybody else comfortable…
that they slowly abandon themselves in the process.

And the scary part is…

At first, it looks like a good trait.

You are the understanding one.
The patient one.
The reliable one.
The one always checking up on others.
The one always saying “it’s okay” even when it is not okay.

You become the person everybody depends on emotionally.

And because you are kind…
you convince yourself that sacrificing your own feelings is normal.

So you stay quiet when things hurt you.
You tolerate disrespect longer than you should.
You overextend yourself emotionally for people who would never do the same for you.

Not because you are stupid.

But because deep down, you became addicted to feeling needed.

You feared disappointing people.
You feared conflict.
You feared making others uncomfortable.

So instead…

You made yourself uncomfortable to keep everyone else happy.

And that slowly destroys people from the inside.

Because the problem with people pleasers is this:

They spend so much time understanding everybody else…
that nobody ever learns to understand them.

People become used to your silence.
Used to your patience.
Used to your forgiveness.

So the moment you finally get tired…
the moment you finally say “enough”…
people act shocked.

Because they never realised how much pain you were swallowing quietly all those years.

And this is why it hits hard later in life.

Because one day you suddenly realise something painful:

You built your entire personality around making other people comfortable…
but never learned how to protect your own peace.

So now you struggle to say no.
You struggle to set boundaries.
You struggle to express anger.
You struggle to ask for reassurance.
You struggle to tell people when they hurt you.

And eventually…

All those unspoken emotions turn into exhaustion.

You start feeling emotionally drained all the time.
You isolate yourself more.
You become quieter.
Not because you hate people…

But because you are tired of feeling emotionally responsible for everybody else.

And honestly…

A lot of people pleasers were not born that way.

They became that way because somewhere in life they learned that love felt safer when they were useful, agreeable, easy, needed or emotionally convenient for others.

So now they spend their whole life trying not to become a burden.

Even while silently carrying burdens themselves.

That is why people pleasers suffer so deeply.

Because they give everyone emotional safety…
while secretly having nowhere safe to place their own emotions.

And one of the saddest feelings in this world is realising…

You spent years pouring love into everyone else…
while completely neglecting yourself in the process.

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Reminders

@reminders

24 days ago

“He took a few cups of love
One tablespoon of patience
One teaspoon of generosity
One pint of kindness
One quart of laughter
One pinch of concern
He mixed willingness with happiness and added lots of faith
He stirred it up well, spread it over a span of a lifetime, and served it to each and every deserving person he met” -Muhammad Ali

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