Divorced Muslims
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Asslalekum Sisters and Brothers,
Perhaps women need to hear this too
Despite of all the dissapointed that men inflict on us, there's still one aspect of our behaviour and expectations that we as women need to rectify within ourselves.
We famously blame men for only wanting is for our bodies or the service we can provide as our informal labour
However sometimes we tend to forget that we also seek men for their bodies, their validation , their economic stability and what they can provide more than who they are....what they are going through and what is their emotional state
I never thought I would advocate for men but here I am in the hope that somone might need to hear this.
I used to think that men use vagueness in the initial stage of dating and avoid commitment to satisfy their physical needs. Get physical intimacy without giving emotional support while I still partially believe that , I also believe that one needs to broden ones typical limiting believes about men and their emotional capacity.
Men also pour their hearts out in their relationship, They also go through heart breaks ...they also get exhausted and with their exhausted capacity when they seek new relationships they do bring the anxiety of the previous one ....the one where their tender heart got broken.
Whole most women cope up with heartbreaks with expression of vulnerability and need for validation....some men who are genuine enter new relationships with self preservation and solidified external walls they build. It's not always dodging commitment sometimes it is fear of heartbreak that makes them delay connection.
As a women it is extremely selfish to assume that men would fall for you within your own timelines. Love has to develop organically otherwise it will not flourish.
Give men a chance too....they already capable of human emotions just as much as we are (is that right)