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Reminder Regarding Earthquakes
When such a disaster strikes, many people reflect and wish to repent and turn back to God. But often, once the danger has passed and the fear subsides, people return to their old ways—sometimes even committing worse sins than before.
Sometimes, sadly, people pass away during disasters, from illness, or through any form of death while still persisting in wrongdoing. They leave this world without having fulfilled Allah’s commands and without having found the chance to repent and turn back to Him.
May we never wait for calamity or the approach of death before we change. True repentance is not only felt when danger is near, but is shown by remaining righteous even when things are peaceful. May the Almighty protect us from doing wrong, and may He take us from this world only when we have been forgiven and are pleasing to Him. Allahumma Ameen.
Every experience teaches a lesson. Some teach us what we want, while others teach us what we deserve.
📖 The People Between Chapters
One of the strangest things about this app is that most of us are meeting each other in the middle of a story.
Not at the beginning.
Not at the end.
In the middle.
Some are divorced.
Some are widowed.
Some have never married.
Some are healing from betrayal.
Some are recovering from years spent loving the wrong person.
Some are carrying grief nobody can see.
Some smile in their photos while quietly fighting battles known only to Allah.
And yet here we all are.
Scrolling.
Searching.
Hoping.
Praying.
Trying to believe that perhaps the next chapter will be better than the last.
I sometimes think of the famous line from Hemingway:
“The world breaks everyone, and afterward, many are strong at the broken places.”
But Islam teaches something even deeper.
It teaches that our broken places are not merely scars.
They can become places where Allah’s light enters our lives.
Many people look at their divorce and see failure.
Many widows and widowers look at their loss and see emptiness.
Many singles look at their age and see time running out.
Yet the Qur’an repeatedly teaches us that Allah specializes in turning endings into beginnings.
Who would have imagined that Yusuf (AS) would go from a well to a palace?
Who would have imagined that Musa (AS) would go from a fugitive to a Prophet?
Who would have imagined that Hajar (AS), alone in the desert with her child, would become part of a story remembered by billions until the end of time?
The lesson is simple.
Human beings see the present.
Allah sees the destination.
Many of us are exhausted because we are trying to read Chapter 3 while demanding to know how Chapter 20 ends.
But faith requires patience.
Not patience because we understand the plan.
Patience because we trust the Planner.
Sometimes I read posts from divorced brothers and sisters who speak as if their marriage was the final verdict on their worth.
As if one person’s inability to value them somehow reduced the value Allah gave them.
It doesn’t.
A rejected diamond is still a diamond.
A closed door is still a door.
And a wounded heart is still capable of healing.
The Prophet ﷺ lost his parents.
Lost his wife Khadijah (RA).
Lost children.
Lost companions.
Faced rejection from those closest to him.
Yet he never allowed hardship to convince him that Allah had abandoned him.
That may be one of the greatest lessons of all.
Do not interpret a difficult chapter as evidence of a bad Author.
Allah is still writing.
The Japanese have a concept called Kintsugi.
When a treasured bowl breaks, they repair it with gold.
The cracks are not hidden.
They become part of the beauty.
SubhanAllah.
How similar that is to the believer.
The trials remain part of the story.
But Allah can transform them into wisdom, compassion, strength, and closeness to Him.
Perhaps your divorce taught you patience.
Perhaps your loss taught you gratitude.
Perhaps your loneliness taught you reliance upon Allah.
Perhaps your heartbreak brought you back to prayer.
What if the chapter you wish had never happened is the chapter that saved you?
The reality is that nobody here knows how their story ends.
Not the divorced.
Not the widowed.
Not the single.
Not the happily married.
Not the person still searching.
We are all travelers between chapters.
The only thing we truly know is that Allah is Al-Hakeem, The Most Wise.
And that His plans are better than our assumptions.
So if you are reading this while carrying pain, disappointment, or uncertainty:
Do not close the book before Allah finishes writing the story.
The well was not the end for Yusuf.
The desert was not the end for Hajar.
The cave was not the end for Muhammad ﷺ.
And this difficult chapter is not necessarily the end for you.
📖 “Indeed, with hardship comes ease.” (94:6)
Not after hardship.
With hardship.
May Allah heal every wounded heart, comfort every grieving soul, replace our losses with something better, and allow us to meet Him with hearts that remained hopeful despite everything they endured.
Ameen Ya Rabbal Alameen. 🤍
