Divorced Muslims

good morning 🌞

I've been on Muzz for the last 6 years and it has been a utter disappointment for me. Especially women here as soon as they hear the word single father, taking care of a child. Than after viewing the whole profile which was transparent as hell they say "Sorry" and it ends there. Even though they would have a child of their own but would not have such thoughts for others. Finally i have found the one who accepted me for who I'm outside the platform of muzz and Alhamdulillah we are engaged. In all my 6 years of time on muzz j doubt that there has been a serious women. They meet we say salams , than say nothing for ,2 days and than close connection. You complement to start a conversation with decent language they reject the premise of the complement. Well if you aren't here on muzz for the purpose of marriage than what else .. oh yes let's clear a lot more things like for example i was rejected by same status women, i was rejected by divorced women, i was rejected by women who had child and want to bring their child along with them but won't accept my child, i was rejected because at the moment i didn't had any job by the govt, i got rejected because the women didn't wanted to live with inlaws (even though the divorce didn't taught them any lesson in life).
So the women who came into my life is from lower class but educated and I'm upper middle class and educated. She didn't bothered if i had a job or not she wanted us to work together and prosper, she stood beside me in my tough time, she cared for me in my difficult time, she had no demands of car, house or luxury and i had no demands of her. Alhamdulillah we are now a couple we respect each other we care for each other and we honor each other.
Hope there is a thing or two for the community to learn from.

I got married in 2021, but after the wedding, I realized that she is a narcissistic and attention-seeking woman. It is impossible to spend a lifetime with such people because they never change or become normal. Therefore, leaving was the best decision. Now, I am looking for a woman who can establish a relationship based on respect and decency in her married life, take responsibility for her husband and her home, and treat everyone with respect and dignity. She should be good-natured and well-mannered. Remaining details will be shared once a suitable match is found.

Eid mubark to All specially brothers and sisters living abroad

It’s exactly like how women go shopping — they hop from one store to another, inspecting every single thing in detail. And when they finally like something, they quote such a ridiculously low price… because deep down, they don’t even want it.
And then those same women say, “Men don’t respect women… men just waste time.”
The truth is, every other woman is out there hunting for a big, fresh, perfect goat for herself, while men are running around trying to act like roosters. Hahahahaha.

I think i have finally reached that point knowing that majority divorced men are not ready to settle. They mostly have the same spiel...."i want to wait a year"...in the meantime, use the hell out of a woman and stop her from involving families, be nice ocassionally, make up some bs when u can't be bothered with her but keep leading her on with lies. Yeh I think we are better off single than finding a sincere divorced man in this society...

10 Signs a Female Malignant Narcissist May Be Secretly Sabotaging Your Life

A female malignant narcissist is often very different from the stereotypical loud, arrogant narcissist. She may appear charming, caring, supportive, and even selfless to the outside world. Behind closed doors, however, she can be highly manipulative, deeply envious, and determined to undermine anyone she sees as a threat.

One of the most overlooked traits is extreme jealousy. She may not openly compete with you. Instead, she operates covertly, working behind the scenes to damage your reputation, isolate you from support, and diminish your confidence.

Here are ten warning signs.

1. She Cannot Celebrate Your Success

Your achievements trigger resentment rather than genuine happiness. When something good happens to you, she quickly changes the subject, minimizes your accomplishment, or finds a way to make it about herself.

2. She Secretly Competes With You

Everything becomes a competition. Your career, relationships, appearance, finances, and personal growth are viewed through a lens of comparison. She feels the need to win, even when there is no contest.

3. She Runs Covert Smear Campaigns

Rather than confronting you directly, she quietly plants seeds of doubt in the minds of others. She may present herself as concerned while subtly damaging your reputation.

By the time you discover what is happening, people may already be questioning your character.

4. She Turns Family and Friends Against You

A common tactic is triangulation. She tells different stories to different people, creating confusion and division. Over time, trusted relationships become strained, and you may find yourself isolated.

5. She Plays the Victim Expertly

No matter what happens, she positions herself as the injured party. Even when confronted with evidence of harmful behavior, she redirects attention to her own suffering and avoids accountability.

6. She Sabotages Opportunities

Whether it’s a career opportunity, friendship, business venture, or relationship, she may quietly undermine anything that helps you grow stronger or more independent.

The sabotage is often subtle enough to maintain plausible deniability.

7. She Uses Information as a Weapon

Personal details shared in confidence may later be used against you. Vulnerabilities become ammunition during conflicts or are strategically shared with others to damage your credibility.

8. She Thrives on Chaos and Confusion

One day she is supportive and affectionate. The next she is cold, critical, or hostile. This unpredictability keeps people emotionally off balance and easier to control.

9. She Lacks Genuine Empathy

She may know exactly what to say in public, but her concern often disappears when your needs conflict with her interests. Compassion is frequently conditional and self-serving.

10. She Becomes Increasingly Destructive When Losing Control

When boundaries are enforced or you begin pulling away, the behavior often escalates. The mask slips. Smear campaigns intensify, blame increases, and efforts to regain control become more obvious.

The Hidden Motivation: Envy

At the core of many malignant narcissistic behaviors is profound envy. Your confidence, happiness, success, relationships, or independence may trigger feelings she cannot tolerate.

Rather than improving herself, she attempts to pull others down. The goal is not necessarily to win. The goal is to prevent others from thriving.

Protecting Yourself

Pay attention to patterns, not promises.

Trust actions over words.

Maintain strong boundaries.

Document serious incidents when necessary.

Keep supportive relationships intact.

Most importantly, do not waste years trying to convince someone to treat you with basic respect.

People who genuinely care about you may make mistakes, but they do not repeatedly try to undermine your peace, damage your reputation, or destroy your relationships.

The moment you recognize a consistent pattern of manipulation, envy, and sabotage, the healthiest response is often distance, boundaries, and protecting your own well-being.

I never knew what true magic was until I looked into your eyes and realized you were the dream I had been searching for all along..........

Assalamualaikum...Good morning from here 😍

I am so exhausted by the sheer lack of decency from some men on these platforms. I recently matched with a divorced dad from Birmingham. By day two, without building an ounce of rapport, he hits me with, "Where is my kiss?"

When I firmly called out the lack of respect and crass behavior, his immediate response was to get defensive, snap back, and say, "Go find someone who respects you." The audacity is mind-blowing. If you are just looking for casual hookups or want to speak to women with zero filter, stop matching with people who have serious intentions. And the punchline? He claims he’s willing to "settle down" after a few meetings. mind you, I live in Pakistan. It feels like this app is just a magnet for the absolute worst behavior.its like all the maggots of the entire world are on this app! I’m disgusted beyond imagination! Yuck!