Divorced Muslims
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Hi All, anyone serious about marriage?
I'm divorced and marriage lasted for 3 months....We have small family and belong to educated family....By profession, Computer Professional.
Salam alaikum my name is khalifa nationality tanzanian currently live and work in kenya am a God fearing man humble carering i need a wife whose stable if intrested 768089308 dont forget kenyan 254 code
I believe Nikah should be kept simple, practical, and realistic rather than being burdened with unnecessary complications, unrealistic expectations, or excessive conditions. Unfortunately, when marriage becomes unnecessarily difficult it can sometimes push people towards the wrong paths which is concerning for both individuals and society.
In my opinion, the true foundations of a successful Nikah are mutual understanding, sincerity, respect, trust, and compatibility. These qualities matter far more than material things or superficial expectations.
Emotionally, morally, and physically, every person needs a life partner who stands by them through the different phases and challenges of life. As a human being, I also feel the same need and understand the value of having a sincere, supportive, and understanding companion with whom one can build a peaceful and meaningful life.
There was this girl I connected with on WhatsApp. She is in her late 30s. Our conversation was going well, and things were progressing. Then, out of nowhere, she suddenly decided that I wasn’t the right guy for her.
When I asked her what went wrong, she showed me screenshots of messages from another guy. He was sending her these massive paragraphs—everything from elaborate "good morning" texts to detailed updates about his tea and coffee.
I asked her straight up, "So, you were talking to him while talking to me?"
She admitted, "Yes, I was."
I told her right then and there: "Maybe in the past I would have overlooked this, but absolutely not anymore." I also made it clear that I am not the type of person who has the time to sit and write long, repetitive paragraphs morning and night. We could have easily talked on the call, and I would have happily shared all the stories in the world with her—Romeo and Juliet, Ram Leela, you name it.
Honestly, I really thought she was the one. I was literally about to involve my family to take things to the next level. We had only been talking for 10 days, and just like that, it was over.
A Request to Girls
My only request to girls is this: please, just be upfront from the very beginning if you are exploring multiple options at the same time. At least that way, we know where we stand. But leading someone on by saying, "It's only you," and then suddenly throwing screenshots in their face to show how some other guy sends "better" texts? That is just wrong.
Is marital infidelity forgivable?
Posting in this group since those with experience of marriage might be able to offer a stronger insight.
Unmarried ones are welcome to respond too, of course.