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Please tell whether he wants to marry as per his own choice or is it good to marry as per his parents' choice? If it's a girl or a boy, it's fine to marry as per your choice. What do you guys think?
Men, Ego, and Fulfilling Responsibility in Islam
In Islam, men are entrusted with responsibilities that are an amānah (trust) from Allah, whether in family life, society, or their personal duties before Him. These responsibilities are not based on superiority, but on accountability and duty.
When a man consistently avoids or fails to fulfil his obligations due to ego, laziness, emotional immaturity, or attachment to lower desires (nafs), this is understood in Islam as ضعف في النفس (weakness of the self) and ضعف في الإيمان (weakness in faith). The nafs can lead a person toward comfort, avoidance of difficulty, and resistance to accountability, even when he knows what is right.
In Islamic understanding, strength is not defined by control over others, status, or outward image, but by self-control, discipline, and the ability to act responsibly even when it is difficult. The Prophet ﷺ clarified that true strength is the ability to restrain oneself at the moment of anger and impulse, not the ability to dominate others.
At the same time, Islam does not leave a person defined by these weaknesses. A man is still accountable for his choices, but he is also always capable of return, repentance, and reform. The door of tawbah remains open, and inner change is always possible when a person turns back to Allah with sincerity.
Ultimately, Islam calls men to rise above ego-driven behaviour and develop ikhlas (sincerity), discipline, and responsibility, not as a cultural expectation, but as part of their standing before Allah.
📢 OFFICIAL RANT TIME 📢
Right guys, let’s get one thing straight first I KNOW this app is BOTH a dating app AND a society/divorce chat app! I get it! That’s fine! 🤣 But someone please explain to me… WHAT IS THE POINT OF HAVING A BIO SECTION IF ABSOLUTELY NO HUMAN BEING ACTUALLY READS IT?! 🤯
Do you all just log on, look at the profile picture, go “ooh nice” and immediately type a message? Is that it? Do the words underneath just vanish? Are they written in invisible ink?! Do you think I sat here typing out my whole life story just for fun, like a little essay challenge?! 📜🙄
I’ve written it plain as day: I’m 48, been married 19 years, I know exactly what I want and what I DON’T want. I’m here for a laugh, a chat, good people who get it AND if it’s dating, I want MEN MY OWN AGE! 🚩 Yet 90% of messages I get are lads young enough to be my son asking me out! 🤣😭 Bless you darlings, but I’m old enough to have owned a CD player when it was new! I’ve got socks older than you! Go find girls your own age, go enjoy your youth, leave us oldies to moan about ex-husbands and bills in peace! 😭💀
Have some basic decency and respect please — READ THE EFFING BIO BEFORE YOU REACH OUT! It’s not hard! It’s like 3 lines! If you message me asking something I’ve already said NO to, or you’re 12+ years younger… you’re getting blocked faster than I can make a cup of tea! 🫖✋
Thank you for coming to my TED Talk! 💅😂
`Marriage is Sunnah. Dating is not.
If you’re also looking for Nikah with family involvement, you’re on the right profile.
Niyyat saaf, manzil Nikah Inshallah.
Dear Muzz, please connect me to divorced men and are serious for marriage within this year....
