Converts / Reverts

Encouraging and Supporting Reverts Who Have Embraced Islam

In Islam, supporting people who have embraced Islam (often called reverts) is a beautiful act of kindness, compassion and brotherhood or sisterhood. Embracing Islam can be a life-changing experience, and reverts may need encouragement, friendship, guidance and practical support as they learn and practise their new faith.

1. What does the Qur’an teach us?

Surah An-Nahl 16:125
“Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and good instruction, and argue with them in a way that is best.”

This teaches Muslims to guide others with wisdom, patience, kindness and respectful
communication.

Surah At-Tawbah 9:71
“The believing men and believing women are allies of one another…”

Believers should support one another in faith, encourage good and help each other through difficulties.

Surah Al-Ma'idah 5:2
“And cooperate in righteousness and piety…”

Helping a new Muslim learn, feel welcome and practise Islam can be part of cooperating in righteousness.

2. What did Prophet Muhammad ﷺ teach us?
   The Prophet ﷺ taught Muslims to make matters easier for people rather than unnecessarily difficult.

He said:
“Make things easy and do not make things difficult, give glad tidings and do not repel people.”

— Sahih Al Bukhari 69; Sahih Muslim 1734

This is especially relevant when supporting reverts. A new Muslim should not be expected to learn everything overnight. Learning to pray, understanding the Qur’an, adjusting daily habits and navigating family relationships can take time.

3. Practical ways to support a revert

• Encourage without pressuring. Help them learn at a manageable pace

• Offer friendship and companionship. Check in on them and invite them to appropriate community activities.

• Help them learn the basics. Explain the five pillars of Islam, prayer, wudu and essential beliefs patiently.

• Respect their circumstances. Some reverts may face rejection, isolation or difficulties with family members.

• Provide practical assistance where possible. This might include prayer resources, suitable Islamic books, transport to the mosque or connecting them with a knowledgeable teacher

• Avoid judgement. Do not expect someone to become perfectly practising immediately or criticise them harshly when they are still learning.

• Celebrate their progress. Small steps in learning and practising Islam deserve encouragement.

4. The importance of kindness towards reverts

A person who embraces Islam may have made a significant personal decision, sometimes despite opposition from family or friends. A kind Muslim can help them feel that they have gained a community rather than simply changed their beliefs.

Remember, however, that every revert is different. Some may need religious guidance, others emotional support, and others simply friendship and the opportunity to ask questions without fear of judgement.

5. Supporting reverts in marriage and companionship

If a revert is seeking marriage, Muslims should treat them with dignity and fairness. Their previous religious background, ethnicity or lack of an established Muslim family should not automatically be treated as a disadvantage.

A potential spouse should be considered on the basis of their faith, character, honesty, compatibility and commitment to building a healthy marriage. It is also important to ensure that a revert understands their rights and responsibilities and is not pressured into marriage before they are ready.

Supporting a revert in this way means recognising them as a fellow Muslim, not treating them as someone who is less deserving of respect or companionship.

6. A beautiful reminder
   Surah Al-Qasas 28:24, which you asked about earlier, contains the supplication of Prophet Musa علي

“My Lord, I am truly in need of whatever good You may send down to me.”

This reminds us of our dependence on Allah and the importance of humility. We can also be a means through which Allah brings goodness into another person's life by offering sincere help, compassion and encouragement.

The central lesson: Welcome reverts with kindness, help them grow in knowledge and faith, and support them without judgement or coercion. Sometimes a sincere friendship, a patient explanation or a simple act of generosity can make a lasting difference.

May Allah reward everyone who sincerely supports new Muslims, strengthen those who have embraced Islam, and grant them beneficial knowledge, good companionship and steadfastness upon the faith. Ameen.

Surah Al-Qasas (28:24)
Arabic:
فَسَقَىٰ لَهُمَا ثُمَّ تَوَلَّىٰ إِلَى الظِّلِّ فَقَالَ رَبِّ إِنِّي لِمَا أَنزَلْتَ إِلَيَّ

English translation:
“So he watered their flocks for them, then he withdrew to the shade and said, ‘My Lord, I am truly in need of whatever good You may send down to me.’”
— Qur’an 28:24

Explanation of the verse
This verse describes Prophet Musa (Moses) عليه السلام after he fled Egypt and arrived in Madyan.

• He helped others: Musa عليه السلام watered the flocks of two women who were waiting at a well

• He turned to Allah: After helping them, he rested in the shade and sincerely expressed his need for Allah.

• He trusted Allah: Musa عليه السلام was in a difficult situation, without a settled home or secure livelihood, yet he turned to Allah in humility and hope

• He asked for good: His supplication was broad, asking Allah for whatever good He would provide, whether sustenance, safety, shelter or other blessings.

A lesson for your life
This verse reminds us that when we experience uncertainty, hardship or disappointment, we can continue doing good and ask Allah to provide what we need.

You can make this supplication in your own words:

“My Lord, I am truly in need of whatever good You send down to me.”

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Surah Al-Baqarah (2:286)
Surah 2, Verse 286 — The Qur’an
Arabic

لَا يُكَلِّفُ اللَّهُ نَفْسًا إِلَّا وُسْعَهَا ۚ لَهَا مَا كَسَبَتْ وَعَلَيْهَا مَا اكْتَسَبَتْ ۗ رَبَّنَا لَا تُؤَاخِذْنَا إِن نَّسِينَا أَوْ أَخْطَأْنَا ۚ رَبَّنَا وَلَا تَحْمِلْ عَلَيْنَا إِصْرًا كَمَا حَمَلْتَهُ عَلَى الَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِنَا ۚ رَبَّنَا وَلَا تُحَمِّلْنَا مَا لَا طَاقَةَ لَنَا بِهِ ۖ وَاعْفُ عَنَّا وَاغْفِرْ لَنَا وَارْحَم

English translation
“Allah does not burden a soul beyond that it can bear. It will have the reward of what [good] it has earned, and it will bear the consequence of what [evil] it has earned.

Our Lord, do not impose blame upon us if we have forgotten or erred. Our Lord, and lay not upon us a burden like that which You laid upon those before us. Our Lord, and burden us not with that which we have no ability to bear. And pardon us; and forgive us; and have mercy upon us. You are our protector, so give us victory over the disbelieving people.”

English transliteration
Lā yukallifullāhu nafsan illā wus‘ahā. Lahā mā kasabat wa ‘alayhā maktasabat. Rabbanā lā tu’ākhidhnā in nasīnā aw akhṭa’nā. Rabbanā wa lā taḥmil ‘alaynā iṣran kamā ḥamaltahu ‘alal-ladhīna min qablinā. Rabbanā wa lā tuḥammilnā mā lā ṭāqata lanā bih. Wa‘fu ‘annā, waghfir lanā, warḥamnā. Anta mawlānā fanṣurnā ‘alal-qawmil-kāfirīn.

Explanation of the verse

1. Allah does not burden a soul beyond its capacity.

This teaches that Allah knows our abilities, limitations and circumstances. He is aware of the difficulties each person experiences, including struggles that other people may not see.

2. Every person is accountable for their deeds.

Good deeds bring reward by Allah’s permission, while wrongdoing carries consequences. Islam also teaches that sincere repentance, Allah’s forgiveness and His mercy are central to a believer’s relationship with Him.

3. We can ask Allah for forgiveness when we make mistakes.

The verse teaches us to ask Allah not to hold us accountable for genuine forgetfulness or unintentional errors, and to seek His pardon when we fall short.

4. We can ask Allah for strength when life becomes difficult.

The supplication asks Allah not to place upon us burdens we cannot bear. It is a reminder to turn to Him for help, patience and relief during hardship.

5. We should seek Allah’s mercy and protection.

The verse ends by asking Allah to pardon us, forgive us and have mercy upon us. These are among the greatest things a believer can ask for.

How this verse applies to everyday life
If someone experiences prolonged hardship, disappointment, disability, family difficulties or uncertainty about the future, this verse can be a source of comfort. Allah knows the full reality of a person's circumstances, even when other people do not understand them.

However, it does not mean that a believer will never feel overwhelmed, exhausted or distressed. Nor does it mean that seeking help or taking practical steps to improve one's circumstances shows weak faith.

The key message is to keep turning to Allah, seek His help and mercy, and continue doing what is within your ability.

May Allah ease our burdens, forgive our shortcomings, grant us patience and guide us towards what is best in this life and the Hereafter. Ameen.

Does anyone else just feel really ugly with a hijab? No matter how much makeup, what style, what material. I just feel like hiding my face and not going out since I started wearing hijab. My hair has always been a big part of my identity and it’s really long and lustrous and it used to make me really happy. I just don’t feel like me without my hair. I’m trying my best to follow Allah but this feels upsetting like I’m losing a piece of me. How do I work through this?

1. The hadith is authentic. It is reported in
   Al Bukhari 3348 and Sahih Muslim 222. It describes a scene on the Day of Resurrection and mentions that the overwhelming number will be from Ya’juj and Ma’juj (Gog and Magog).

2. There is no definitive percentage for all humanity. We cannot reliably calculate how many people out of every 100 will ultimately enter Paradise based on this hadith alone.

3. The Qur’an teaches both accountability and hope. Allah says in Surah Aal ‘Imran 3:185:

“Whoever is drawn away from the Fire and admitted to Paradise has attained success.”

This reminds Muslims that ultimate success is salvation in the Hereafter, rather than worldly wealth, status or achievements.

The main lesson: Muslims should strive to worship Allah, fulfil their obligations, repent sincerely and do good deeds, while never despairing of His mercy. We cannot declare the final fate of humanity or particular individuals; that judgment belongs to Allah, who is perfectly just and merciful.

May Allah protect us from the Fire, forgive our sins and grant us entry into Jannatul-Firdaws.
Paradise, Ameen.

This one is going to be a little venting session…

Honestly, I know I shouldn’t be crying about my situation. I don’t remember the last time I prayed, or made sincere duaa. Maybe last year in December. I was trying hard to get on track. I was married, I had lost my baby in September prior to December.

I was attending my friends court as a witness against DV while being in DV myself. The morning I got up and packed a small bag to go to my friends house, he thought I was going to go out and cheat on him (at 8 in the morning?) and he hit me so bad I had a light concussion. My eyes were sensitive to light for a couple weeks after he did that. And with that, I stopped praying.

I stopped believing that salah might improve my situation. I stopped having the firm belief I had enough to avoid doing haram things. When my husband and I divorced, I kept skipping in and out of relationships that meant nothing and went back to the life I lead before I was Muslim.

Sleeping around, feeling utterly worthless and like my life was not going anywhere. And I still lead this life till now but with a heavy heart. I never forgot Allah and say Alhamdullilah without a beat all the time. I think about Allah all the time. I have shame deeply rooted in my heart from this. I wish I could lead a better life.

I wish I had the motivation and iman to get up and just pray. I wish I could go back in time and never have met my ex husband at all. But if I never met him, I wouldn’t have known Islam for what it is.

I know suicide is haram, that’s one thing I will never cross over to. But these feelings and thoughts have honestly wrecked my brain.
I have borderline personality disorder so I have highs and lows but I’ve been on this ultimate low since September last year. Maybe even longer than that.

I don’t remember the last time I was truly at peace and happy. My childhood is a **** show and the men in my life just groomed me, assaulted me or used me for something, so I guess I have the need to s.xualise myself a lot.

I just want to be perfect. I want my baby back… I want to be happy and not pretend in front of everyone that I’m ok.

Please don’t judge me in the comments or be mean, I just had to write everything down so I could maybe find someone who had the same experience or could give me advice on how to maybe force myself into prayer again? Or send me a nice verse from the Quran to ease my mind and heart? Maybe… someone to talk to?

I’ve hit rock bottom.
I’m not asking for attention, hence why I posted anonymously. I know revealing our sins is haram, but I have no one to speak to anymore. I avoid my friends and isolate myself from family because all they do is use me for what I can provide for them.

Would you rather marry someone who challenges you to become a better Muslim, or someone who makes practising Islam feel easier and more beautiful?