Muslims in the UK

Jumma Mubarak to everybody....

Women no longer have to suffer like their mothers did"

For generations, South Asian Muslim women were taught that Sabr (patience) meant silently enduring anything to keep a marriage alive—including emotional neglect, toxic in-law dynamics, or financial control.

Today, that has fundamentally changed:The Death of "Log Kya Kahenge" (What will people say?): While the fear of community gossip is still strong in South Asian circles, younger women are no longer letting it ruin their mental health. They are prioritizing their peace over societal approval.Separating Islam from Culture:

Modern South Asian women are highly educated in both their careers and their religion. They recognize that many traditional demands placed on daughters-in-law are toxic cultural constructs, not Islamic obligations.

Financial and Emotional Independence: With diaspora and modern South Asian women leading in higher education and corporate spaces, they have the financial security to walk away from a marriage that compromises their dignity.2. "Men still want to live like their fathers did"Many South Asian Muslim men struggle to let go of the privileges their fathers and grandfathers enjoyed:

The In-Law Dynamic: In traditional South Asian households, a bride was often expected to assimilate entirely into the groom’s family, serving them and sacrificing her autonomy. Many men still enter marriage expecting their wives to fulfill this exact traditional role.The "Selective Traditionalist" Trap:

A major point of friction today is when a man wants a modern, educated wife who earns an income to help with the high cost of living, but still expects her to be a submissive, 1950s-style housewife the moment she steps into the kitchen.Lack of Emotional Tools:

Older generations of South Asian men were rarely taught emotional vulnerability, communication, or how to view a wife as an equal partner. Young men who copy this behavior find that modern women will not tolerate emotional distance.The BreakdownThe divorce rate is high because the "unspoken contract" of South Asian marriage has broken down.

The old system only worked because women were forced to endure the hard parts in silence. Now that women have the choice and the Islamic backing to leave toxic environments, men must learn to adapt, communicate, and partner with their wives—rather than rule over them.

Honestly I just want an Aaron P looking brother on deen, had a good stable income and is a good man. Wants to be an active dad and is a romantic at heart.

Is that too much to ask for?

Actually I just want Aaron to be Muslim himself and come to my door step and ask for my hand.
May Allah guide him to Islam and to my house.
Say Ameen 🤲

If you don’t say Ameen you are a hater.

Where’s my old school traditional ladies

Those who claim are practicing but when you see the way they dress and the wat they cut their hair i get confused. Dual personality, also shame on those who screem should because some who lost the mach... you r too far from the reality... wake up.... comment from me the father

As’salaam walaikum

Question to the brothers, pls be honest
Has there been days where you looked or shall I say stalked 😆 a sisters profile who pressed like on you?

There’s a guy I like and he’s visited me 4 x so far but not pressed like back! and he’s a gold member so he’s seen my whole bio, if he’s indecisive about a profile how will he be about his future Mrs lol

A message for you:

God never saddens a servant except to make him happy, He never takes from him except to give to him, and He never tests him except out of love. Be certain that God will never forsake you, despite your shortcomings and weaknesses, the magnitude of your mistakes, the accumulation of your pains, the complexity of your problems, and the multitude of your worries.

So hey, I've got a question. I recently joined muzz a few weeks ago and I've literally got thousands of likes and I honestly thought I would have only got maybe 10 or 20 at best. Which has been very overwhelming as I'm not good with attention (which I know is pretty stupid being on a dating app but I just want to find the one). Anyway after finally getting the courage to respond to these likes and liking people back, they either just unmatch or don't say anything at all. Anyway long story short, are all these likes just nonsense? Is that what typically happens on muzz or am I just getting aired out for no reason? I'm spending so much time properly going through everyone's profile because I don't based things on looks but maybe I going about this the wrong way? I will be grateful for any advice or even just thoughts at this point 😂

Anyone play total battle ?

A peaceful heart, a grateful soul, and hope for a beautiful future. Alhamdulillah. 🤲