Muslims in the UK

I had an interesting discussion today over a chai with a good muslim brother I have known for a few years now. He lives a good life and is looking to get married and the topic of looking for potentials came up in our conversation.

So this brother had been looking for a wife for around 2-3 years now up until now.
He is in his early 30s
He owns his own place (no mortgage)
He has savings and halal investments
Lives alone intently for future marriage
He is financially stable mashallah
Not been married and no kids
He is currently studying in uni (evenings)
He actively prays 5 times a day
His only crime for being constantly rejected on apps like Muzz? Being a local full-time bus driver.

It’s quite staggering how many times I’ve read women complaining about “men don’t provide” or I need a “provider”. Surely a provider could be on the minimum wage? I mean he could be financially very astute and have a 999 credit score. He could have the consistency of a lift cable keeping life moving day in-day out. Why does the modern perception of a “provider” have to be in a certain income / tax bracket? Are we that afraid of building bridges together by experiencing temporary strain and poverty? Surely life in 2026 with all the social awareness, facilities, tech and evolved living in young people have these days would ensure you and your spouse would not be in a cardboard box on the street and you wouldn’t be starved to death like past generations?

It made me sad to hear his account as I feel for the brother. It seems that as soon as a sister hears he is a full-time bus driver, they ghost him. I’m now starting believe that there are elements of the wider Muslim community in the UK which promote an economic caste system which they have concocted to project their materialistic and and often judgemental nature under the guise of “preference”

Just Trying to get down to the bottom of this obsession about not wanting 50/50 and wanting a solid provider yet good honest providers out here are being overlooked for reasons which probably tell more about the sister than they do the hard working man.

Thoughts anyone?

Being a misogynist dont seem all that bad recently ill be honest

Women are soo weird omdz😂😂😂

Damn been a strong minute on muzz , how are the brothers 🤣

I think self appraisal is disgusting

PECHS Islamabad
https://youtu.be/AP5kgvd94XA

https://youtu.be/AP5kgvd94XA

A question for the CEO of Jamaa.

      _What is the vision for Jamaa?_

Is Jamaa intended exclusively for people who are single, or is it a community that continues to have value as people move into relationships and different stages of life?

I ask because I keep hearing the view that once someone is no longer single, they should no longer be on Jamaa. Although I have never seen that raised towards married sisters who post.

It would be helpful to clarify this so the community thrives.

Could the CEO perhaps do a video explaining:

• What inspired the creation of Jamaa?

• What is the vision and purpose of the platform?

• Who is Jamaa ultimately designed to serve?

• How do you envision people using Jamaa as their lives and relationships evolve?

I think having clarity directly from the CEO would help the community understand what Jamaa is really about and what role it is intended to play in our lives.

Could people tag any others in his C suite/ board or Product owners?

Thank you for your attention in this matter 😀

I think a great way to assess compatibility is with a grocery shop! You can learn so much about eachother!

• -do they know how to buy a weeks worth of groceries?
• -are they frugally checking offers and cost per gram or do they prefer to buy what they like regardless of cost?
• -are they disciplined, or do they go all out?
  -what’s in their diet, healthy, or salty and sweet treats?
  -Will you have conflict over branding preferences, and do they boycott?
• -How are they in that environment, anxious? Chatty? Helpful? Determined to be in and out quickly? Do they sing along to the music?!
  -What’s it like at paying time; chatty and carefree while packing things in orderly fashion, or chaotic nervousness and worrying about the cost?

I’m sure there’s more, but now I’m just eager to have a first date whilst doing a weekly shop! 

Chai Thought of The Day… (CTOTD)

Is Islamic banking actually Islamic in nature if its very modern foundation is build on the shoulders of the conventional banking system?
(Bank of England / Fed Reserve Interest rate pegging and all that)
Is the synonymous service fee actually an interest rate wearing a thobe?

Hmm… ☕️