I NEED your opinion please!
Last year I was talking to someone from the U.S we talked for like 6 months. We FaceTimed each other, sent lots of snaps of our daily activities and chats. We were BOTH VERY much interested in each other he even came to visit me in Canada and met my family and spent time with us for 4 days. He did not bring his parents and my mom kept telling me to tell him to come with his parents. I did bring it up once and he said he had a complicated relationship with his father and his mom would support him but he wanted to leave the parents out for this trip and would eventually bring them. Throughout the trip he got a long with my family really well and we had a great time. When he returned home he mentioned multiple times how he enjoyed his visit and looked forward to meeting again. And two a weeks later he revealed his family was not okay with moving forward. But also didn’t give me all the details until I asked and he eventually shared his family problems and how his dad has always been difficult. He seemed to embarrassed and didn’t want to share his problems. He said he didn’t know my parents didn’t speak fluent English and that will be a problem when the parents meet. He also said his dad is NOT okay with marrying a girl outside his ethnicity and asked him to give my dad’s number so he could say he is not approving this marriage. He also mentioned his parents had many arguments and he didn’t want to put his mom through anything. I just accepted all this with a broken heart and wished him well. He seemed to be sad about all this too. We didn’t talk sometimes after that but I decided to put an end to that because the purpose of marriage was no longer there and it would be haraam. He agreed and didn’t want to waste my time.

One thing I want to mention is he was the only person I talked with over face time and with interest because I really did see this working. I knew my parents would be okay with different ethnicities and I thought maybe he would be able to convince his parents too due to his younger brother also marrying someone out of his ethnicity. He also joked and said his brother “paved a path” for him. I really did see this working out.

After we stopped talking he didn’t remove me from his instagram and would view my stories. However. I decided to remove him from my instagram after months because it was hurting me. He did not reach out to try to make things work. It has been year. I think about him everyday. I have never missed a person like this before. I always able to move on and talk to new people when. Things didn’t work out with a potential. But this is hard. Everything reminds me of a memory related to him.

I have talked to many people in the past and matched with lots of people. I have never been attracted to anyone like this before. We had great chemistry and got along so well. Our vibes clicked so well.

Sometimes I think my parents not speaking fluent English is not a huge problem because they were able to communicate with him fine. And yes, it would be a bit of a challenge with the parents but conversations could have been translated. And even in the past it wasn’t a problem with other potentials.
I also think why would you talk for so long and get attached to someone and get them attached when you know your family dynamic. Especially, if you are not courageous enough to go against them?

I have tried to talk to new people and have been on 2 apps and went to matrimonial events but nothing is about to go past 2-3 weeks. I also know he didn’t find anyone yet because I recently saw his profile pop up on an app. And we matched. AGAIN! And I wondered if I should text him. It could be a sign? Maybe he is too embarrassed to message me? I keep thinking he wants to message me but probably is afraid to? Or maybe he wasn’t interested? Maybe he doesn’t want to fight him parents? If his brother could fight for love he could too?

Should I text him? What do you advise?

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Anonymous

8 days ago

Lets tag the Muslim Narcissists here. Those who use Islam to manipulate others🤣🤣🤣its gonna be fun