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So I got played by a girl and I am still in shock.

1. She is a white revert from US, I am a brown man. She is in college while I have a stable job. We met on a dating app. She was more than okay with the age difference. In fact she said she likes age difference relationships. Also since Islam allows it too, I didn’t think much of the age difference.

2. We went on dates and we hit it off. During the times we were getting to know each other, I paid for coffee and food every time we met (at least five times I paid for food). She was new to Islam so I bought her dresses for Eid, I also ordered her a musalla and tasbih. I cooked for her a few times too. She never did anything for me really but I didn’t mind it because she was still figuring out school and being new to Islam.

3. I was kind to her, would listen to her daily problems, her insecurities and how she was scared of her parents knowing about her conversion to Islam. I introduced her to some ladies in the mosque and now she had a few women she could talk to about her situation and Islam. I was supporting her because she was young and new to Islam. I thought this would reward me and help her become a better Muslim.

4. We clearly liked each other. We would meet every week, call a few times every week and constantly text. Naturally we started talking about the possibility of getting married. We discussed Mehr and agreed to it. We discussed a marriage timeline and agreed to it. We also discussed future responsibilities and plans. She didn’t want to work so I agreed that I will fully support her financially and give her an allowance like a good Muslim husband would do. I told her I will get a new place where we can live. We discussed plans like honeymoons and going to Umarh after marriage. We even decided getting her a ring and officially getting engaged the next time we meet. It was all natural and felt like we found our life partners. We would keep it halal and were excited about a future together. With her consent I talked to my family and they were excited too.

5. Her family was not on board yet. She lived with her parents who were strict Christian so she was naturally scared of their reaction. I raised this concern but she assured me that her parents reaction will not get in our way.

6. Everything was going super fine until she started acting distant. I thought maybe she is just stressed because of her parents against her conversion but she kept acting kinda cold. I asked her what was wrong but she was very short and never told me what’s going on. Eventually she ghosted me and wouldn’t even reply to me. I kept asking her and sent her many texts and called her a few times until I got this from her: “sorry you are sweet but I just can’t”….no explanation, no reasons provided, no nothing.

7. I feel so hurt because she hurt me and my family and didn’t even care to explain. She made all the promises and plans and she just went back on them with one sentence. I agree it’s her right to decline marriage but do you think it was fair that she hurt me in this way? Especially after I did so much for her. Like if she didn’t want it she should’ve never made all the plans and committed to engagement etc.

I wonder why people do this to other and think it’s not a big deal? Do you think is there something I should have done better? It hurts even more given that I was more than fair to her and treated her extremely well.

The journey to finding a partner is one that requires patience, perseverance and trust. Every experience brings us one step closer to what Allah has written for us inshallah 🤲

I got a chance to talk to my friend's future third wife, so I'll propose to her. She's only 21, but first I need to build up my running stamina. 😂

Sometimes life becomes easier when people stop trying to understand every chapter before its time.

Not every situation needs to be explained immediately. Not every silence is negative. Not every delay is a loss. Sometimes things unfold slowly because certain lessons need time, certain people need distance, and certain answers can only be understood when the heart is ready.

Life teaches everyone in different ways. Some lessons come through happiness, some through patience, some through unexpected changes, and some through moments that make people grow without even realising it. What matters is not only what happens, but how people choose to carry themselves through it.

There is dignity in staying calm when things feel uncertain. There is wisdom in choosing silence when words will not change anything. There is strength in walking away from what disturbs peace, without anger, without bitterness, and without needing to prove a point.

As people grow, they begin to understand that peace is not a luxury. It is something valuable. It should be protected from unnecessary drama, forced explanations, and situations that only make the heart tired.

The most beautiful kind of growth is quiet growth. The kind where a person becomes softer, wiser, more patient, and more selective with their energy. The kind where they no longer react to everything, no longer chase every answer, and no longer allow every situation to disturb their inner calm.

May everyone learn to trust the timing of life, to accept what cannot be changed, to let go of what was never meant to stay, and to welcome what comes with peace.

Because what is meant for a person will never require them to lose themselves in the process. And what is written will always find its way, at the right time, in the right way. 🤍

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They rubbed me like a dirty plate😂