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You've hurt someone, let's say that person haven't forgiven you.
Would you still be able to enter jannah?
After all your charities, completed Hajj/Umrah
,your fasts and your shahadah, do you really think Allah will let you enter after hurting his servants? People can hold grudges even in after life. Be good and it'll help you in akhirah.

How to know if a man is already married

Muzz is only sleeping💤😴, not an active person here.

As salaam alaykum.

The men are Qawaamoon of The Women

Qawaamoon does not mean the men are in charge of the women.

In Arabic there are only two types of sentences

1. Informative - gives information but no command
2. Initiative - Initiates action, has a command

The following is an Informative part of an Ayah , it gives us Information but does not initiate any action from us :

الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ 4:34

This dictionary reference below gives the significance of the word Qawaamoon:

Ahmad Mukhtar Umar, Muʿjam al-Lugha al-ʿArabīya al-Muʿāṣira (d. 2003 CE)
معجم اللغة العربية المعاصرة لأحمد مختار عمر

                                  {الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ}

            “ يقومون بالنَّفقة عليهنَّ والذّبّ عنهنّ”

The translation:

"They(The Men) are charged with spending upon them(The Women) and repelling (attacks etc) away from them(The Women)”

Charged with NOT in charge of women.

Notice the wording isn't The Protector or The Provider!

The following is another Informative sentence. It informs us but does not initiate action.

Translation of what The Prophet said

وَعَنْ أَنَسٍ قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «الْمَرْأَةُ إِذَا صَلَّتْ خَمْسَهَا وَصَامَتْ شَهْرَهَا وَأَحْصَنَتْ فَرْجَهَا وَأَطَاعَتْ بَعْلَهَا فَلْتَدْخُلْ مِنْ أَيِّ أَبْوَابِ الْجَنَّةِ شَاءَتْ» . رَوَاهُ أَبُو نعيم فِي الْحِلْية

Anas reported God’s Messenger as saying, “The Woman when she prays her five, fasts during Ramadan, preserves her chastity and obeys her husband, she may enter by any of the gates of paradise she wishes.”

Mishkat al-Masabih 3254
Grade: Sahih

Let us read this hadith together. The hadith has the word "When".

What did we read? We read "When"

Does "When" mean "I have to"?

Answers Very Simple: No it does not.

Many interpret this hadith, thinking they know what it means, and say the women "have to" obey their husbands. I didn't read "have to",  did you read "have to"? Answer: No.

It informs us that “when” a woman obeys, it does not initiate a command that tells us that the women must obey their husbands. The sentence is Informative not Initiative.

My point is that lots of people say the woman must obey her husband, citing all sorts of opinions from the past and using the ayah above and the hadith above to justify their point. The ayah and The hadith above are not evidence for their point as you've read.

Only Se# and paid workers in Dubai, there can be no love here. I have been here for 1.5 months and I feel that this is just a world of money. Thank God, I am proud of myself, I am away from all these things and Inshallah Allah will help me never get my faith down.

I feel like everyone is looking for marriage but we don’t want the people who want us. which i think is completely fair considering we deserve the person and the love we want. not what others want for us.