All things marriage

does anyone else have a genuine hatred for hookup culture? i dont mean u just dont participate bc its haram and you love and fear Allah i mean it genuinely DISGUSTS you.

when i was younger, i didnt understand. alhamdulilah i never had a haram relationship but at the time, i only held myself back for Allah. if it were up to me, i would have probably been like other Americans. but guidance saved me. but now? now im soooooooo thankful i didnt fall into that hole. i just love love. ive always been a lovergirl and now i see that the way americans do things kills hearts. hookup culture doesnt advertise itself as such. zina starts as a hookup disguised as love and its a slipperly slope... people fall in and out over and over again until u have women and men proudly having intimacy on the first date with no shame. love is so deep and sooooooo beautiful and i cant wait to inshallah have the kind of relationship where u love them not just past their body, not just their humanity and personality but even deeper than that-- to love their soul. and islam compares zina to murder because it truly is a murder of the soul. it starts as a flame but what it really does is dim the light of the soul. may Allah keep us all strong until we find our naseebs.

(and no that doesnt mean i dont highly value physical attraction it means that when that fades when life is up and down through sickness and health when wealth goes up or down etc the initial things that made u fall in love arent the only things left... whats left is still them. their soul that youre prepared to love until your last breath as long as they treat u right and do the same to u)

I really think I am super cool. Like I am really non-judgemental. I don’t care about looks.
I see girls complaining men aren’t good looking enough, I don’t care. I am open to Polygamy. I am financially independent and don’t expect much financially, (may be to earn as much as me so that he doesn’t feel insecure), I am okay to quit my job and start a Homebased business when we get married. I have haven’t dated much, I am literally looking for Islamic marriage for last 10 years. I think I am a total catch. My friends think I am a total catch. My male colleagues think I am a total catch (I don’t flirt, I have great sense of humor, I am very empathetic but also assertive) and yet, and yet, and yet — I cannot find a man I can have a conversation with.
Not because I am in my 30s now. Since the last decade.
I cannot find a desi man who can add to a conversation.. and I am not really attracted to non-desi men. I really like our culture. I wanna live with parents mine or his.. I need culture alignment. My mom has permitted me to find a non Muslim and convert him. And i am here waiting for a decent man to hold a conversation.

If she wasn’t meant for you, she may be the perfect woman for someone else. Don’t spoil her image or bring her down because things didn’t work out between you. Respect her, speak well of her, and move on with dignity. A person’s value doesn’t decrease simply because they weren’t the right match for you.

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Im very sick about dating nowdays, how come in the first page of chatting ask about sleeping together? Super ****!

Assalamu Alaikum. I hope you're doing well. Your profile caught my attention because you seem genuine and respectful. I thought I'd say salam and introduce myself. If you're comfortable and your intentions are serious, I'd be happy to get to know you better. May Allah guide us to what is best. 😊

https://www.instagram.com/p/DaFu3E4gVhy/?img_index=5&igsh=czduOHJqamg0YWE3

So I think my biggest red flag was that when I wanna get to know you, I text you a lot ladies is that a red flag? Because I want to get to know you and everything like that.

Every recorded metric shows single mother homes are by FAR the worst for children.

The best is a two parent household followed very closely by a single father home and then after a big gap it’s single mother homes.

And yes it’s still better for the children for you to stay even if you’re arguing a lot. Even if you’re unhappy in your relationship . Stop letting social media make you think your married life is sub par. Women be putting themselves before their children these days compared to previous generations .

Idk why i feel some kinda way when guys say " i dont have social media. Because i find it waste of time, and i would rather use my time for thibgs that are beneficial for my life, and career"
Am i over thinking?
I mean the perosn doesnt even have a linkedIn ... smh