All things marriage

Du’a FOR TODAY
YA ALLAH,
IN A TIME WHEN EVERYTHING SEEMS
EXPENSIVE AND DIFFICULT,
I THANK YOU FOR NEVER ABANDONING ME.
YOU HAVE FED ME WHEN I WAS HUNGRY, PROVIDED FOR ME WHEN I HAD LITTLE, AND BLESSED ME WITH MORE THAN ENOUGH IN WAYS I OFTEN OVERLOOK.
YA RAZZAQ, CONTINUE TO PROVIDE FOR ME AND MY FAMILY FROM SOURCES WE NEVER EXPECT.
PLACE BARAKAH IN OUR SUSTENANCE, PROTECT US FROM HARDSHIP, AND MAKE US AMONG THOSE WHO ARE ALWAYS GRATEFUL FOR YOUR COUNTLESS BLESSINGS.
KEEP OUR HEARTS CONTENT,
OUR HANDS FILLED WITH HALAL PROVISION, AND OUR TONGUES BUSY WITH SAYING:
ALHAMDULILLAH FOR EVERYTHING.
AMEEN Ya’Rabil’Alameen 🤲🏻

Yesterday, a 20 y/o girl came to our clinic, complaining of having a chest pain. Air muka dia nampak stress dan sedih.
Lepastu baru tahu yang dia recently broke up dengan boyfriend dia.

What broke my heart was not the breakup, but seeing how deeply it affected her. Shes having difficulties to cope with her emotion, sampai ada suicidal thought and even has the thought to harm her ex bf.

🌻from this experience, i learned something important which is love people sincerely, but never love anyone more than you love Allah. We know right that everything in this world is temporary. People, relationship, posessions, and even all good memories and happiness tu hanyalah pinjaman sementara dan of course tak akan kekal jadi milik kita.

😓We risk to lose ourselves, when we put all those things as a solely purpose in our lives.

🌻Berbeza, bila kita meletakkkan Allah as our top priority, and yes maybe kita akan kecewa, sedih, marah at the first place, tapi setidaknya it will not lead to destroy ourselves, sbb kita yakin yang segala apa yang ada dalam possession kita tu milik Dia, dan Dia boleh ambil bila2 masa sahaja, dan Dia way know better what is the best for us.

I looking for a wife from the Philippines or Malaysia

Recently I have been reflecting on a question that goes far beyond marriage and perhaps reaches into the very heart of how we as Muslims see one another. | مؤخرا كنت أفكر في سؤال يتجاوز موضوع الزواج نفسه وربما يصل إلى جوهر الطريقة التي ننظر بها نحن المسلمين إلى بعضنا البعض Why are single parents often judged so quickly during the search for marriage? | لماذا يتم الحكم على الآباء والأمهات المنفصلين أو المطلقين بهذه السرعة أثناء رحلة البحث عن الزواج؟ Before continuing let me say something clearly. | وقبل أن أكمل دعوني أوضح أمرا مهما بوضوح Every person has the right to their preferences. | لكل إنسان الحق في تفضيلاته Nobody should ever be forced into a marriage they do not want. | ولا ينبغي أبدا أن يجبر أحد على زواج لا يريده Nobody owes anyone acceptance. | ولا يدين أحد لأحد بالقبول But there is a difference between a preference and a judgment. | ولكن هناك فرقا بين التفضيل وبين الحكم على الناس There is a difference between choosing a path and reducing another believer to a label. | وهناك فرق بين اختيار طريق معين وبين اختزال مؤمن أو مؤمنة في عنوان واحد Sometimes I wonder how many sincere people have been hurt not by rejection itself but by the assumptions behind it. | وأحيانا أتساءل كم من الأشخاص الصادقين تألموا ليس بسبب الرفض نفسه بل بسبب الافتراضات التي جاءت معه A divorced woman. | امرأة مطلقة A single mother. | أم منفصلة A widowed mother. | أم أرملة A divorced father. | أب مطلق A widowed father. | أب أرمل And suddenly an entire human being disappears behind a title. | وفجأة يختفي إنسان كامل خلف عنوان واحد Sometimes people see a single mother and immediately begin calculating responsibilities. | فأحيانا يرى البعض أما منفصلة ويبدأ مباشرة في حساب المسؤوليات Children. Expenses. Complications. | أطفال. مصاريف. تعقيدات Some even think thoughts they would never say aloud. | بل إن بعض الناس قد يفكر بأفكار لا يجرؤ على قولها علنا She needs a husband. | إنها تحتاج إلى زوج Perhaps she will lower her standards. | ربما ستتنازل عن معاييرها Perhaps she will accept less than others would accept. | وربما تقبل بما لا يقبله غيرها Perhaps she should not ask for mahr. | وربما لا يحق لها أن تطلب مهرا Perhaps her children will become a burden on me. | وربما يصبح أبناؤها عبئا علي And I cannot help but ask. | وهنا لا أملك إلا أن أتساءل When did we begin looking at believing women through the language of transactions instead of the language of mercy? | متى بدأنا ننظر إلى المؤمنات بلغة الصفقات بدلا من لغة الرحمة?When did we forget that before she became a single mother she was a servant of Allah? | ومتى نسينا أنها قبل أن تكون أما منفصلة كانت أمة لله؟When did we forget that she has a heart? | ومتى نسينا أن لها قلبا؟ That she has fears? | وأن لها مخاوف؟That she has hopes? | وأن لها آمالا؟That she has dreams? | وأن لها أحلاما؟That she may have spent years carrying burdens nobody saw except Allah? | وأنها ربما قضت سنوات تحمل أعباء لم يرها أحد إلا الله؟How many nights did she cry while protecting her children? | كم ليلة بكت وهي تحمي أبناءها؟How many times did she choose dignity over desperation? | وكم مرة اختارت الكرامة على حساب الراحة؟How many times did she stand alone while trusting Allah to carry her through another day? | وكم مرة وقفت وحدها وهي تتوكل على الله ليعينها على يوم جديد؟And the same applies to single fathers. | وينطبق الأمر نفسه على الآباء المنفصلين.
Sometimes people see a child and immediately see an obstacle. | فأحيانا يرى البعض طفلا فيرى عائقا.They see responsibility before they see character. | ويرون المسؤولية قبل أن يروا الأخلاق.They see complications before they see sacrifice. | ويرون التعقيدات قبل أن يروا التضحية. They worry that the child will take money. | ويخشون أن يأخذ الطفل من المال They worry that the child will take attention. | ويخشون أن يأخذ الطفل من الاهتمام They worry that the child will somehow stand in the way of the future they imagined. | ويخشون أن يقف الطفل في طريق المستقبل الذي تخيلوه But perhaps that child is not evidence of a problem. | ولكن ربما لا يكون ذلك الطفل دليلا على مشكلة.
Perhaps that child is evidence of loyalty. | بل دليلا على الوفاء Perhaps that child is evidence of responsibility. | ودليلا على تحمل المسؤولية Perhaps that child is evidence that this father stayed when many others would have walked away. | ودليلا على أن هذا الأب بقي عندما كان غيره سيرحل The truth is that children are not baggage. | والحقيقة أن الأطفال ليسوا أمتعة They are not obstacles. | وليسوا عوائق They are not suitcases that people carry from one chapter into another. | وليسوا حقائب يحملها الناس من فصل إلى فصل They are souls created by Allah. | بل أرواح خلقها الله They are trusts entrusted by Allah. | وأمانات استأمن الله الناس عليها And perhaps before judging them as complications we should remember how much importance Allah gave to every human soul. | وربما قبل أن ننظر إليهم كتعقيدات يجب أن نتذكر المكانة التي أعطاها الله لكل نفس بشرية Allah says in the Quran: “And We have certainly honored the children of Adam.” | قال الله تعالى: ﴿وَلَقَدْ كَرَّمْنَا بَنِي آدَمَ﴾Notice that Allah did not say He honored only the wealthy or only the married or only those with simple lives. | ولاحظ أن الله لم يقل إنه كرم الأغنياء فقط أو المتزوجين فقط أو أصحاب الحياة السهلة فقط He honored the children of Adam. | بل كرم بني آدم جميعا The lesson is profound. | والدرس هنا عظيم.
Human dignity is given by Allah not by marital status. | فكرامة الإنسان يمنحها الله لا الحالة الاجتماعية.
Value is not measured by whether a person has children. | وقيمة الإنسان لا تقاس بوجود الأطفال من عدمهHonor is not measured by how easy someone’s story appears to be. | والكرامة لا تقاس بمدى سهولة قصة الإنسان Perhaps before judging a chapter we should remember who wrote it. | وربما قبل أن نحكم على فصل من القصة يجب أن نتذكر من كتبه Because the Author of that chapter is Allah. | لأن كاتب ذلك الفصل هو الله سبحانه وتعالى And Allah never wastes a hardship. | والله لا يضيع ابتلاء.
Allah never wastes a tear. | والله لا يضيع دمعة Allah never wastes patience. | والله لا يضيع صبرا Allah never wastes sincerity. | والله لا يضيع إخلاصا.
To be continued…….\ يتبع ……

Hi people so my search for a spouse here has been a roller coaster ride like I desperately wanna find someone compatible and when I chat with men on muzz, I feel like I have no interest in talking to any men, this mix feeling is killing my hope

Since everyone complains here that nobody is serious about marrying and doesn't ask the right questions and since I'm a problem solver. I have put a list of questions together for you degenerates to ask your future spouse.

Here is a curated list of questions to ask your future spouse, broken down by key areas:
​🏠 Life, Family & Home
​Family of origin: How do you feel about how your parents handled money, affection, and conflict? What do you want to replicate, and what do you want to change?
​Children: Do you want kids? If so, how many, and what is our timeline? How would we handle infertility or adoption?
​Parenting styles: What are your core philosophies on discipline, religion, and schooling for children?
​Division of labor: How will we split household chores and daily responsibilities? What are your expectations for "mental load" management?
​Location: Where do you see us living long-term? Are you open to moving for a job opportunity?
​💰 Finances
​Financial goals: What does financial security look like to you? Are you more of a saver or a spender?
​Debt & Assets: What is your current financial situation (debts, credit scores, savings)?
​Banking: Will we merge our finances completely, keep them separate, or use a "yours, mine, and ours" joint account system?
​Budgeting: At what dollar amount do we need to consult each other before making a purchase?
​🛑 Conflict & Communication
​Fighting styles: How do you react when you are angry or overwhelmed? Do you need space, or do you want to talk it out immediately?
​Apologies: What does a sincere apology look like to you?
​Hard times: How do you typically handle severe stress, grief, or crisis? How can I best support you during those times?
​Dealbreakers: What constitutes a breach of trust for you (e.g., emotional infidelity, keeping secrets, hiding money)?
​🎨 Values, Growth & Intimacy
​Spiritual/Religious life: What role will faith or spirituality play in our daily lives and marriage?
​Personal growth: How do you feel about therapy, marriage counseling, or self-improvement?
​Social life & Independence: How much time do you expect us to spend together versus apart with our own friends and hobbies?
​Affection & Intimacy: How do you best feel loved and connected (e.g., words of affirmation, physical touch, quality time)? Are our expectations around physical intimacy aligned?

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