All things marriage

With all due respect, I honestly feel like searching for marriage on Muzz is becoming a complete waste of time.
Many men here are already married, some never had serious intentions from the beginning, and even the ones who seem genuine sometimes create a reason to end things once the conversation starts getting serious.
Suddenly it's the distance, the culture, the language, the age gap, or something else they decide is the reason you can't be together.
But somehow... they'll still ask, "Can we stay friends?" 😂🤔
At this point, maybe I should spend less time reading profiles and more time studying red flags.

Heyy

My name is Khalifa. I am from Algeria, specifically from Djelfa. I am 27 years old and I am looking for a wife for a halal marriage. I truly want to get married, but I don't have much money at the moment. May God bless us with a good and righteous wife. I am sincere and honest, and I don't play with people's feelings. If you are serious about marriage, here is my phone number. You can contact me: +213 772 475 624.

Life is too short to stay strangers. Where are you all from? 🌍

hiii

Tafseer of surah Nisa 129
Tafseer Ibn kaseer
An-Nisa' 4:129

وَلَنْ تَسْتَطِيْعُوْۤا اَنْ تَعْدِلُوْا بَيْنَ النِّسَآءِ وَلَوْ حَرَصْتُمْ فَلَا تَمِيْلُوْا كُلَّ الْمَيْلِ فَتَذَرُوْهَا كَالْمُعَلَّقَةِ ؕ وَاِنْ تُصْلِحُوْا وَتَتَّقُوْا فَاِنَّ اللّٰهَ كَانَ غَفُوْرًا رَّحِيْمًا

Urdu - Muhammad Junagarhi

تم سے یہ تو کبھی نہ ہو سکے گا کہ اپنی تمام بیویوں میں ہر طرح عدل کرو، گو تم اس کی کتنی ہی خواہش وکوشش کر لو، اس لئے بالکل ہی ایک کی طرف مائل ہو کر دوسری کو ادھڑ لٹکتی ہوئی نہ چھوڑو[1] اور اگر تم اصلاح کرو اور تقویٰ اختیار کرو تو، بے شک اللہ تعالیٰ بڑی مغفرت اور رحمت واﻻ ہے۔

English - Sahih International

And you will never be able to be equal [in feeling] between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. So do not incline completely [toward one] and leave another hanging.[1] And if you amend [your affairs] and fear Allāh - then indeed, Allāh is ever Forgiving and Merciful.

English - Tafsir Ibn Kathir (Abridged)

An-Nisa' 4:129

وَإِن تُحْسِنُواْ وَتَتَّقُواْ فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ خَبِيراً

(But if you do good and have Taqwa, verily, Allah is Ever Well-Acquainted with what you do) if you are patient with the wife you dislike and treat her as other wives are treated, then Allah knows what you do and will reward you for it perfectly. Allah's statement,

وَلَن تَسْتَطِيعُواْ أَن تَعْدِلُواْ بَيْنَ النِّسَآءِ وَلَوْ حَرَصْتُمْ

(You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire,) means, O people! You will never be able to be perfectly just between wives in every respect. Even when one divides the nights justly between wives, there will still be various degrees concerning love, desire and sexual intimacy, as Ibn Abbas, Ubaydah As-Salmani, Mujahid, Al-Hasan Al-Basri and Ad-Dahhak bin Muzahim stated. Imam Ahmad and the collectors of the Sunan recorded that `A'ishah said, "The Messenger of Allah ﷺ used to treat his wives equally and proclaim,

«اللَّهُمَّ هَذَا قَسْمِي فِيمَا أَمْلِكُ، فَلَا تَلُمْنِي فِيمَا تَمْلِكُ وَلَا أَمْلِك»

(O Allah! This is my division in what I own, so do not blame me for what You own and I do not own) referring to his heart. This was the wording that Abu Dawud collected, and its chain of narrators is Sahih. Allah's statement,

فَلاَ تَمِيلُواْ كُلَّ الْمَيْلِ

(so do not incline too much to one of them) means, when you like one of your wives more than others, do not exaggerate in treating her that way,

فَتَذَرُوهَا كَالْمُعَلَّقَةِ

(so as to leave the other hanging. ) referring to the other wives. Ibn Abbas, Mujahid, Said bin Jubayr, Al-Hasan, Ad-Dahhak, Ar-Rabi bin Anas, As-Suddi and Muqatil bin Hayyan said that Muallaqah hanging means, "She is neither divorced nor married." Abu Dawud At-Tayalisi recorded that Abu Hurayrah said that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said,

«مَنْ كَانَتْ لَهُ امْرَأَتَانِ فَمَالَ إِلى إِحْدَاهُمَا، جَاءَ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ وَأَحَدُ شِقَّيْهِ سَاقِط»

(Whoever has two wives and inclines to one of them (too much), will come on the Day of Resurrection with one of his sides dragging.) Allah's statement,

وَإِن تُصْلِحُواْ وَتَتَّقُواْ فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ غَفُوراً رَّحِيماً

(And if you do justice, and do all that is right and have Taqwa, then Allah is Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.) The Ayah states: If you do justice and divide equally in what you have power over, while fearing Allah in all conditions, then Allah will forgive you the favoritism that you showed to some of your wives.

Only muslim girls can understand

There’s no rule that says the guy must text first. Ladies, sending the first message doesn’t make you cheap or desperate.I lost a match I really liked because I uninstalled the app. By the time I came back, it had expired. One message could’ve changed everything. 💔Please let’s do better

My mom is convinced there’s a sweet girl out there meant to 'save me from myself.' Personally, I’m looking for a partner in crime to double the trouble. Who’s ready to risk it all? 🚨😉

That 50 year old uncle who never married, learned the truth and refused to play Russian roulette with his life and finances.

While you're out here simping and romanticising a used and abused wife. He is living proof that staying single is one of the smartest decisions a man can make.

If you have no savings, nothing to lose. Then marriage is for you, try your best to get married. However if you are well off. Never get married. We live in an Era where women will use Islam saying his money is my money but won't adhere to islamic principles. She won't stop at your wealth, your kids will be gone. You'll end up a divorced, broke and lonely 50 year old man. That uncle isn't lonely he is at peace!