All things marriage

Salam 3alykom
The more years went by , the more I keep saying may Allah mercy us or rabena yerhmna berahmeto because of what we see through relationships or apps like these

Looking for a counsellor here on marriage counselling if anyone can guide me please

Trust is earned, not requested.
If someone gets offended simply because I ask reasonable questions about their work or background, instead of understanding that I'm trying to protect myself, should I see that as a red flag?
Is expecting blind trust realistic, or is verifying someone's words a normal part of getting to know them ?

Who is awake?

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Sometimes I realize that not all bad situations are caused by men. Nowadays, some women can also be dishonest or manipulative. Just like the saying goes, not all five fingers are the same—there are good people and bad people on both sides.
So please, stop saying "all men are the same" or "all women are the same." Judge people by their character, not by their gender. Respect the good ones, and don't let the actions of a few define everyone.

I have a genuine question for the guys out there.İs there any reason why you don’t make efforts for a relationship even after you like her and you just met ?
Well I have grown up seeing man learning a new language just to communicate with the girl they like.Or leaving a country or care about the details related to that person.
İs this because the love like in the past doesn’t exist anymore or because the ego doesn’t allow?

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A personal reflection on Islamic marriage.

Lately, I've been thinking a lot about what marriage truly means in Islam. In my heart, I believe that a successful marriage is not built on wealth, beauty, or social status alone. Those things may attract us, but they cannot sustain a home without faith, patience, mercy, and sincere love for the sake of Allah.

Marriage is a trust (amanah). It is two imperfect people choosing every day to help each other become closer to Allah. It means praying together, reminding one another with kindness, forgiving mistakes, supporting each other through hardship, and remembering that every act of patience and compassion is seen by Allah.

As Muslim men, are we striving to lead with justice, gentleness, responsibility, and good character? As Muslim women, are we striving to build our homes with love, wisdom, patience, and sincerity? I believe both husband and wife have rights and responsibilities, and when each fulfills them with the intention of pleasing Allah, the home becomes a place of peace and barakah.

In today's world, many people spend months preparing for a wedding but very little time preparing for a marriage. Perhaps we should invest more in strengthening our iman, improving our character, and learning how to communicate with respect than in impressing others for a single day.

I pray that Allah grants every sincere Muslim a spouse who will be the coolness of their eyes, a source of comfort, and a companion in this life and in Jannah. Ameen.

I'd love to hear your thoughts. What do you believe is the most important quality that makes an Islamic marriage strong and lasting? Let's keep the discussion respectful, beneficial, and for the sake of Allah.

May Allah guide us all to what is best. Ameen. 🤲