All things marriage

I think 99% of thr girls on the matrimonial apps are competing for top 5% of the guys on these matrimonial apps and 99% of the guys are competing for top 10% of the girls.

Choosing Partners Expectations are necessary?,??

This is supposed to be a Muslim dating app, but judging by some of the posts, you’d think it was a support group for people recovering from interactions with the opposite gender.

Every day it’s another think piece on why men are this, women are that, and why nobody is worth marrying anymore. At this point, I’m genuinely curious: are people here looking for a spouse, or just collecting evidence for their next gender-based dissertation?

Focus on ur Strength Ladies!!

10 Etiquette Mistakes We Need to Stop Making on Muzz

1-Ghosting:
If the spark isn't there, just say so. A polite "not a match" is always better than disappearing.

2-One-word replies:
You can't build a marriage on "Yeah" and "Lol." Give people actual sentences to work with.

3-The 48-hour delay:
Everyone is busy, but taking days to reply just signals that you don't care.

4-Fake seriousness:
Don’t put "only serious people" in your bio if you’re going to put zero effort into the conversation.

5-Blank profiles:
Expecting to find a spouse while giving absolutely no information about yourself is unfair.

6-Leading people on:
If you know it’s a "no," let them go. Don't keep them on the back burner because you're bored.

7-The Perfect Checklist:
Look for real compatibility and good character, not a fictional character who meets 100 perfect criteria.

8-Match hoarding:
Stop treating the app like a game. Focus on genuinely getting to know a few people instead of collecting matches.

9-The shallow filter:
Don't swipe past great people over a bad camera angle. Deen and values sustain a marriage, not a perfect selfie.

10-Forgetting the goal:
This is for Nikah, not entertainment. Remember there's a real person with genuine feelings behind every profile.

You don’t have to become what your haters want you to be just to justify their hatred, nor carry the shame of guilt for something you never did just because it makes some people feel better about themselves ”وحسبي الله ونعم 😪😪😂😂😂الوكيل فيك يافخري

It all started when someone made an assumption about my colleague. They assumed she wasn’t married, when in reality, she has experienced divorce. The reason for their assumption? Apparently, she just doesn’t "look" married.
The person asked her: *"Tumhari shaadi nahi hui?"

While it sounds like an absolutely usual, everyday question, it stayed with me. As someone who is currently and consciously looking for the kind of partner I want to choose, it made me incredibly uncomfortable. It forced me to look closely at the language that circulates in our society, and the specific words people choose to use.

When people say "Shaadi nahi hui," it often carries an underlying tone of failure. It sounds as if marriage is something literally everyone else managed to do, but somehow, you missed the boat.
It made me reflect on my childhood. I remember an uncle who was 38 at the time. Everyone would say:
"Nadim uncle ne shaadi nahi kiya."
But when it came to his cousin sister, our relative Shareefa, the narrative shifted:
"Shareefa ki shaadi *nahi hui."
This brings up a massive question about the narratives and tones that are active "in the market." Maybe it’s gender-biased, or maybe it’s just deeply ingrained systemic language. But either way, it matters.

Can we please start being more mindful about our language? Can we stop casually throwing around "Shaadi nahi hui?"
Behind that single status, there is a whole lived experience you know nothing about:

Shayd usne koshish ki aur boht bura dil tutha.
Shayd vo apne old-age parents ka dhyaan rakh raha tha ya rakh rahi thi.
Shayd unki health, ability, ya disability ki vajah se their timeline looks different.
And then comes that slightly sarcastic, patronizing tone people use to wrap up the conversation: Chalo chodo, Allah ne chaha toh hojayega.

Beshaq! Allah’s timing is perfect. Pehle yaad nahi aaya when you were belittling the person? Can we please start with genuine duas, good wishes, and actual kindness instead of belittling or looking down on someone first?

How about we start celebrating people for who they are? We can leave comments about their hard work, their thriving profession, or simply how amazing they are as human beings irrespective of their marriage status.

After all, shaadi karke bhi extra-marital affairs hote hain, toh log kya hi haasil kar lete hain? Marriage isn't an automatic certificate of a flawless life.

Let’s start bringing genuine kindness into our words when we talk about shaadi. Words have weight.

Why are you here?

Here we go again😩
I matched with someone outside this app actually but i wanna share again with you guys. Here are the informations about him:

1. He said he is Indonesian but has Turkiye blood from his father;
2. He works in Pertamina Persero, drilling oil and gas division;
3. He is 39 years old, never married, likes to travel around the world, like visited Finland more than 3 times; lives with his driver and a helper in his house at PIK area in Jakarta since he is the only one left after his parents died, also he has a secretary for his job.
4. He seemed to be a very religious person but since he asked the money, I have negative feeling about this (I'm sorry)

Here is the brief story:
I matched him 2 days ago and we had a good vibes for the first day. The second day he tends to be a very dominant person, when we had a call he didn't want to listen to me, cut in when i spoke. The third day, he asked me to transfer the money for his aunt.
He asked a little amount actually but of course I refused to transfer because I've never been meet him, also he has his secretary so why he should asked me to transfer to his family while he has his secretary or assistance and can chat his secretary while he was on meeting (he could texted me at that time). He was so irritating while i refused. I checked the bank account ('the aunt' use Seabank account but he deleted the number directly while i refused. I checked the bank account, there was no reported before).

I don't know this is his actual photo or not but again be careful with this kind of people who ask the money. In this economy, people are crazier😩🥲

Ps: I tried to search on pimeyes web, there are 168 result for his photo. Most of the photos are from wmatch app