Kashmiris

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Looking for a partner, but found none 😔😭

Not sad but kinda lost the hope

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As I write this, I have tears in my eyes.

I recently matched with someone on Muzz whose profile seemed to reflect everything I was looking for. He appeared well-qualified, religious, had performed Umrah, and described himself as someone looking for a partner to stand by his side emotionally and spiritually. Naturally, I expected our conversations to revolve around values, compatibility, and building a future together.

Instead, within the first 30 minutes, I realized the conversation kept returning to one topic: ***.

No matter how many times I tried to steer the discussion toward our goals, family values, or future plans, his response would always come back to physical intimacy. It made me deeply uncomfortable. I wanted to build an emotional connection first, but my instincts kept telling me that something wasn’t right.

Then he told me he watches porn every day.

When I asked why, he simply said he had desires and fantasies. What surprised me even more was that despite presenting himself as a practicing Muslim who had performed Umrah, he didn’t see the contradiction. When I gently questioned how watching pornography every day aligned with the values he claimed to hold, he became defensive and asked me not to bring religion into it.

The most disturbing part was when he told me that if I started showing more of my body, he would stop watching porn.

That statement broke my heart.

No woman should ever feel responsible for a man’s lack of self-control or be expected to “fix” his habits by changing how she dresses or presents herself. A woman is not responsible for a man’s choices, nor should she be reduced to a solution for his addictions or desires.

I chose to end the conversation because I want a marriage built on respect, emotional intimacy, trust, and shared values—not one where pornography has become a substitute for self-discipline or genuine connection.

This post isn’t about attacking all men. I know there are good men in this world, and I sincerely pray Allah blesses every sincere woman with one. But this was my experience, and it left me questioning how difficult it has become to find someone whose priorities are faith, character, and companionship over lust.

Marriage is a beautiful bond built on mercy, respect, love, friendship, and emotional security. Physical intimacy is part of marriage, but it should never become the only foundation of a relationship or the center of every conversation.

Sometimes I wonder, where do we women go to find a genuine life partner? Someone who values our hearts before our bodies, our emotions before our appearance, and our character before his desires.

I’m not looking for perfection. I’m simply looking for a man with self-control, sincerity, respect, emotional maturity, and the intention to build a marriage based on faith, trust, and companionship—not lust.

As I finish writing this, my eyes are filled with tears. Not because of one conversation, but because experiences like these make the search for a sincere life partner feel so exhausting.

Anyone from kashmir

Kashmir

I recently came across a kashmiri guy on Muzz who had sent me a request. His profile stayed in my requests for a couple of days before I decided to accept it. What caught my attention was that his profile mentioned he prayed five times a day, had done umrah,recites the Qur’an, and appeared to be spiritually inclined. Since I was looking for someone with similar values, I thought he might be a good match.

We exchanged greetings and chatted for about an hour. Initially, the conversation seemed normal, but then everything changed. Out of nowhere, he started talking about his fantasies and even asked me if I had watched “Fifty Shades of Grey”.I told him I hadn’t watched it, though I had heard of it. He then said he wanted his married life to be like that and wanted to do everything the same way.

I was genuinely taken aback. I couldn’t understand why someone who presented himself as deeply religious would bring up such a topic with a woman he had only just met. I told him that discussing such things before marriage wasn’t appropriate. His response was, “Sab chalta hai. How much can I control? I want the same things with my future partner.”

At that moment, I realized that a religious appearance doesn’t necessarily reflect good character or emotional maturity. It was a disappointing reminder that what people display on their profiles and who they are in reality can be very different.

What saddened me most was seeing how heavily some people allow movies and social media to shape their expectations of relationships instead of building them on respect, modesty, and genuine companionship.

This experience taught me an important lesson: not every person who appears religious is necessarily a good match. True character is reflected in how someone speaks, behaves, and respects boundaries. Finding someone who genuinely lives by their values is becoming increasingly difficult, but I still believe such people exist, and I pray Allah guides me to one.

Every experience like this gives me another reason to lose faith in men😔