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@Pahima13621117
Why do so many righteous people who worship Allah and do good suffer, while sinners and wrongdoers live prosperous lives?
This is Istidraj — a gradual leading to ruin.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
"When you see Allah granting someone all the worldly things they desire while they persist in sin — know that it is Istidraj."
As stated in Surah Al-An'am 6:44:
When they forgot the reminder, We opened to them every blessing — until they rejoiced in what they had been given. Then We seized them suddenly, and they were utterly destroyed.
Their prosperity is not a favor, but a delay before their fall. The hardships of the righteous are a test and a raising of their status with Allah.
@usmankhan555
Should you live together before marriage?
My opinion: No, commitment matters more than testing it.
@Pahima13621117
🕌 When Screens Distract the Heart
We say “no time” for Qur’an & family — yet scroll for hours.
Not lack of time — lack of discipline.
Our days are our treasure. Al-Hasan al-Basri:
“You are days. When a day ends, a part of you ends.”
Cut back:
🚫 TikTok / FB / IG → delete
⏱️ X → 10 mins max/day
Harm > benefit — they steal time & misguide.
Do this instead:
📖 Seek knowledge for Allah
👨👩👧👦 Be with family
🕌 Cling to Ahlus-Sunnah & masjid
📚 Read real books; attend classes
🤲 Pray tahajjud; ask Allah for a righteous spouse
💻 Follow only scholars — use Telegram
Don’t scroll aimlessly. Stop when done.
May Allah guide us.
@Pahima13621117
"Whoever is concerned with the Hereafter, Allah will enrich his heart, set his affairs right, and the world will come to him."
— Sunan al-Tirmidhi 2465
💡 Simple explanation:
When you prioritize your eternal life (Akhirah) over worldly things, Allah:
- -Fills your heart with contentment & peace 💛
- -Organizes and blesses your affairs 🤲🏼
- -Provides for you naturally — the world comes to you, without you having to chase it
It teaches: Focus on Allah & the Hereafter first, and everything else falls into place ✨
@Pedma-Tara
So you want to treat me like a queen, do you?
Many men here claim they are a gentleman. That they have integrity. That they are “that man”. That they will treat their wife like a queen. YET, they don’t ask questions. They sit and wait for us women to forward the conversation (it you can call it that). Why did they like me in the first place if they can’t talk? I ask questions and get short answers. It’s like pulling teeth to get a complete thought to me like an adult. They they answer the question, then nothing. Umm…. Usually a conversation includes remarking on what the other said, maybe having a follow up questions, etc . Then maybe say something about your self connected to what they said. Note, it is not a completion. Don’t say “oh that’s nothing, I did….blah
Blah blah…”. Ask questions. Show an interest. You know, I have literally told some that I am
A bit shy about some things especially with men here who are strangers. I say that I am modest. But then they get suspicions if I’m not ready for a phone call, or if I don’t text first. Some of these men will give me a short answer. But ask nothing about me. I’ll try again to get the ball rolling. I’ll ask them questions, and when they reply try to segue into how I would answer the question. Still nothing.
Where is the INTEGRITY you claim to have when you then decide to unmatch without a word. Whatever. The worst is when you wonder why someone hasn’t said hello in the past day or so, then you realize that you’ve been blocked. Blocked as if we were really about to go looking for the guy.
Ladies, if you are hoping for things to change and you and man age. Well stop it. Don’t disappoint yourself.
WHAT HAPPENED TO THE “MAN” who just said he knows how to talk to women. That he’s a gentleman? I gotta tell you. I have zero interest in a man who could care less about getting to know me, and who can’t even hold a conversation. Sigh…perhaps people are so used to being online that they don’t know what mature conversation entails?
Dear brothers, stop it, please. Persue us. Let us feel feminine and desired. We don’t want to feel like “the man”, pursuing the man. Let yourself feel masculine. Be a gentleman. These lame conversation only say the opposite of your profiles.
@Pahima13621117
Part of a wife’s duty is to be her husband’s advisor. When he leaves home to earn a living, let her remind him: fear Allah, and do not feed us with unlawful earnings. Tell him: My beloved, fear Allah — do not feed us with haram wealth. We can bear hunger, but we cannot bear the Fire.
@nezha918630
@khalid774458
🛤️AsSalaamu alaykum, my wise and experienced ones..⏳ after a certain number of decades of hard work, blessings from Allah swt and observing people and opportunities come and go.. I myself am of the opinion that we have earned the right to make our own daily schedule without interference from anyone unless our life and our Aakhirah depends on it. ..
@Shaimaat