Psychology & Neurodiversity

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When you are an entrepreneur, some mornings you're forecasting your billion-dollar exit, and by the afternoon, you're deciding if you can afford your $20 lunch.

Before you begin your work, studies, or daily chores, pause to ask yourself,"Why am I doing this💯✅

𝑴𝑶𝑵𝑺𝑻𝑬𝑹 𝑹𝑬𝑫 𝑭𝑳𝑨𝑮 : 👇
Proposing to a Wife or Looking for a Life Sponsor?
By.‌🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌

That night,🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌'s phone screen lit up,reflecting blue light in his quiet room.A message came in the DIRECT MESSAGE column.His profile looked convincing,a man from a foreign country with a smile neatly placed behind a curation of aesthetic photos.At first,their conversation flowed like an afternoon drizzle : warm,soothing,and full of sweet promises.However,it didn't take long for 🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌ to realize that the drizzle was quickly turning into a storm of absurdity ready to destroy her common sense.

Suddenly,out of nowhere,the man sent a message that made 🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌
's forehead furrow deeply. "Marry me," he wrote.What should have been a romantic thrill turned into a barrage of nonsensical instructions.

"But I don't have a passport,and the bureaucracy in my country is very complicated.How about you take care of my visa?Or,wouldn't it be easier if you just bought a plane ticket,flew to my country,and we got married here?"

🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦 leaned back in her chair,staring at the screen in disbelief.She typed slowly with the last of her patience, "You asked me to marry you,but I have to be your personal travel agent?"

The man remained unmoved,as if love were all about sacrifice,of course,meaning sacrifice on 🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌'s part completely.When 🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌ tried to delve deeper into their future plans,the harsh realities began to peel away one by one.The man didn't even have his own house or a stable financial foundation in his own country.Instead of offering a solution,the man made an even more magical offer,as if he was giving a great gift to 🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌'s life.

"Okay,I'm willing to go to Indonesia. But on one condition : you'll cover all our wedding expenses.And oh,since I have to adapt to your country,I hope you don't mind covering my living expenses first."

‌🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌ stared at the message for a long time.His logic was spinning quickly,compiling a calculation he would never find in any math book : a husband's function,which should be a protector and breadwinner,has now turned into a new burden that he must pay for,from visa fees,tickets,wedding expenses,to daily food costs.The result of the calculation was clearly a big zero,even minus.

"THEN," whispered 🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌ into the silence of the room, "what is his function in my life?To be an aesthetic display that must be fed three times a day?"

When 🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌ finally straightened his back,took a deep breath,and typed the word "NO" with all the determination he had,the instant romance drama instantly turned into a horror story.The mask of a gentleman the stranger had been wearing instantly cracked into pieces.A wounded ego gave birth to a verbal monster.In that instant,the 🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌ chatroom was filled with judgments from A to Z.

"You're a materialistic woman!"
"You don't know how to appreciate true love!"
"A woman like you will grow old alone with your ridiculous standards!"

Insult after insult was sent like a missile, trying to destroy 🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌'s self-esteem,making him feel guilty for maintaining his sanity.However,🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌
simply smiled faintly before hitting the BLOCK button.

She knew very well that the man's anger wasn't because 🇨‌‌🇭‌‌🇮‌‌🇰‌‌🇦‌ was wrong,but because he had just lost a potential free donor whom he had almost exploited.Marriage isn't a social charity where a woman must register to be the sole sponsor of another person's life for the sake of a "fake marriage." When someone offers you a future but asks you to build it from scratch alone,remember ; you are looking for a life partner,not adopting a life burden.

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𝗛𝗮𝗾 𝗠𝗮𝗵𝗿:-𝗠𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗧𝗵𝗮𝗻 𝗝𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗮𝗻 𝗔𝗺𝗼𝘂𝗻𝘁 ..... 𝗔 𝗕𝗲𝗮𝘂𝘁𝗶𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝗦𝘆𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗺

Mahr is a subject that has long been debated by both men and women. More often than not, the discussion comes down to one question how much should the mahr be? Should it be small or large? Should there be limits? Islamic law does not prescribe a fixed amount for mahr. 𝐀 𝐒𝐡𝐚𝐫'𝐢 𝐦𝐚𝐡𝐫 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐟𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐨 𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐝𝐞𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐬𝐮𝐦 𝐢𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐚𝐦𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐫𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐨𝐦 𝐦𝐮𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐚𝐠𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐮𝐩𝐨𝐧 𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐢𝐚𝐠𝐞 𝐚𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐚𝐠𝐫𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐝 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐟 𝐢𝐭𝐬 𝐩𝐚𝐲𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭.

One of the best examples of this flexibility can be found during the caliphate of Hazrat Umar ibn al-Khattab (RA). He once expressed the intention of placing a limit on the amount of mahr. A woman objected, saying that if Allah had not set a limit on mahr, how could any human being have the authority to do so? Hazrat Umar (RA) immediately withdrew his opinion and acknowledged that the woman was correct.

Reducing mahr to nothing more than financial security or a form of insurance overlooks its true essence. Mahr is certainly a woman's legal right in Islam but its significance extends beyond its financial value. Its beauty also lies in the system through which it is determined.

I always think about two things
• Allah Himself specified the exact amounts for financial obligations such as zakat and ushr. He could have prescribed a fixed amount for mahr as well.

• in the case of khul' the return of mahr become a matter of discussion, with the amount to be returned determined either by mutual agreement or by a court. By contrast, demanding the return of gifts exchanged during the marriage is generally regarded as contrary to Islamic teachings and ethical values.

According to my point of view the most beautiful feature of mahr is that it is not decided unilaterally. The woman expresses her wishes, the man explains what he can reasonably afford, both listen to one another, engage in discussion and ultimately arrive at a decision that satisfies them both. It almost seems as though the very first lesson of married life is being taught here that decisions within this relationship should not be driven by force but by dialogue, respect and mutual consent.

If we look beyond mahr itself, this process offers a glimpse into the nature of married life as a whole. At times, one spouse will express a thought at other times, the other will explain their circumstances. Sometimes one will compromise and sometimes the other will. Ultimately, both must arrive at a place of mutual understanding and agreement.

Allah could have simply allowed the husband to decide the amount of mahr on his own. Instead, by giving the woman the right to express her expectations, Islam acknowledges her voice, dignity, and position from the very beginning of the marriage.

I feel there is another aspect that is equally thought-provoking. Mahr is the woman's legal right, yet its payment also serves as an expression of love, honor and respect. Many aspects of a marital relationship remain private but mahr is a right that is openly declared at the time of the marriage contract. Whenever we present something valuable to another person, we express their worth and significance to us. Mahr becomes a unique expression of that appreciation.

When a man presents the mahr, it reflects his respect and appreciation for the woman he is about to marry. Likewise, when the woman listens to him, considers his financial circumstances and reaches a decision through mutual agreement, she demonstrates respect for his opinion and situation. The entire process reflects mutual dignity, appreciation, and goodwill from both sides.

When all our attention is confined to debates over the amount of mahr or the demands surrounding it, we risk overlooking the beauty of the system that Islamic law has established. Mahr should therefore be understood not merely as a financial matter, but in light of the entire framework through which it is determined and the wisdom embedded within it. Only then can we truly appreciate its spirit and its remarkable beauty.

Ask yourself constantly:

"Is this the journey I want to take?"

"Is this a place/person I want to spend time on?"

The more you ask yourself these questions, the more you will be gravitated toward people and situations that would help you in your journey in life.