Psychology & Neurodiversity
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From human behaviour to neurodiverse perspectives, explore how we think, feel, and experience the world 🧠
I used to always say that looks don’t matter, and that when you truly love someone, you automatically see them as the most beautiful person in the world. And honestly, I still believe that.
But as I grow up and start meeting people through arranged dating, I realized something confusing… looks do matter at first.
So here is the confusion
If love makes someone beautiful in your eyes, then why does attraction matter before love even begins?
What makes a man involve his family in a proposal, then suddenly ghost without explanation?!
As a man, the hardest thing I had to do 2 years AFTER a breakup from a very intense & committed relationship- was to sit with myself, and finally say, "She wasn't my person." The dysregulation, and anxiety of dating a Narcissist makes you lose your mind and identity.
Why it took so long for this realization- I'm not sure. Perhaps, it took being around Believers and seeing what intentiality and peace actually feels like.
Fellas, when you can tell your "talking stage" person about your healing - cuff her asap.
Thank you @muzz
Treat everybody like a somebody. Even if they are a nobody.
The longer I stay here, the more I notice a psychological contradiction in some men who present themselves as very “Islamic,” yet behave in the opposite way, seeking temporary marriages or even long term partners mainly as a loophole to justify physical relationships.
It feels like a form of cognitive dissonance, where actions don’t align with beliefs, but are rationalized to reduce inner conflict.
So it makes me wonder, are you actually more afraid of social or legal consequences than of committing a major sin? I genuinely can’t wrap my head around that 😂