Psychology & Neurodiversity

The one who put their hearts out,are now setting boundaries.

Growing older changes what you look for in life. It's no longer about who gives you butterflies, but who is willing to build something meaningful with you. Career growth. Financial security. Shared struggles. Mutual effort. I'm not looking for temporary attention. I'm looking for a lifelong teammate. I want a genuine partner who understands that life isn't always easy, but everything feels lighter when two people are willing to face it together. Stability. Loyalty. Peace of mind.

If I wanted to play it dirty, I can.
I can create dependency, then cut the strings if they don’t comply. That’s one of the ways control works

But it’s not a technique I use, although I know damn well I have all the power to do it.

If I do something, I execute it cleanly.
No manipulation.
No power play.
And I don’t need any transactional benefit.

Leadership is not based on gender.

People tend to think leaders are people whom you submit to but that’s further from the truth.

Nobody is born a leader. It is a skill that has to be forged from the time you are born, for both men and women.

Leadership qualities begin with leading yourself: your life direction, your decisions, your behaviour, and what you want to achieve by the time you reach your death.

To be a leader, you have to speak up, built your own resources, draw a line, understand where you stand on the chessboard, and never compromise on what you want, who you are, or what you are willing to do.

One of the main mistakes I see poor leaders make is their inability to regulate their emotions.

They snap. They demand. They feel entitled. They diminish people. They throw someone under the bus. Or they use someone else to regulate their emotions instead of regulating themselves.

Let’s define what a leader actually is, because people tend to think leaders are people whom you submit to. They mistake stupidity for leadership.

Apparently, poor leaders think your free will goes out the window and you their subordinate.

No. That’s not a leader.

If someone expects obedience, submission, or insists that you must do things their way ( when it comes to you ) or face the consequences, that’s a hostage situation and you’re their slave.

There are two types of leaders:

One is a designated leader, where an official title gives them authority over a particular role, organisation, team or institution.

The other is a leader by influence, without any official title, where people voluntarily choose to follow their direction because they trust your judgement, character and competence.

This type of leader doesn’t require people to submit to them. It is a type of leadership that comes from integrity, honour and wisdom.

And no, it’s not exclusively for men.

Women have the exact same capacity to embody both kind of leadership if they choose to.

Ya Allah, if it is truly good for me, please grant it to me. My heart and mind are tired of overthinking. I surrender it all to u. please give me peace, strength, and whatever is truly best for me.

No matter how you feel, get up and keep going. Never give up.

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Why is it that when a guy actually pursues me after we match… I’m the one running away? 😅💀

But when I’m the one interested and he acts distant… suddenly I’m offended. 😂

Ya Allah… women, oh women. 😭

At this rate, when am I actually getting married if I keep confusing myself like this? 🙉

Why does people not understand that there are people like us who don't like to talk, why force, go talk to people like you,I am not forcing you to talk to me, why are you, even here some people immediately tries to go on phone calls, I am not comfortable, they don't understand this, they say try you will feel comfortable with me, or how am I going to know you then, it should already stop here, do you not understand that, then we both are different just go, I still feel like more people need to know and get this in their Head, There are very few close people in our life that we talk to that too not regularly, other than for work. No matter how bored I am I don't start talking to people to finish my boredom.

Energy never lies. If someone doesn't receive the same energy they're trying to transmit, don't say they're not serious. You need to check what energy you're carrying first.