I met someone who was really checklist all the boxes, he was exactly what I prayed for long time, I thought he was my spouse, we never argued, if we had a problem, we could figure it out and find the middle ground (always), everything was aligned, we took the relationship seriously leading to marriage. But qodarullah, we found one problem that couldn't have the middle ground, He won't have a kids because some reasons. it makes sense and understandable. Personally, I want to be mom, we were denied and still tried to be together until we realized that we couldn't be together. Moreover, we decided to stop talking and ended this permanently.

One day in ramadan, I cried because remember about him and our plans. I just weaped my tears and got notification of him after we didn't talk anymore. He said he had a dream and I was in. He saw me and my family went to vacation in someplace. He saw we were in the same room as him. He saw me joyful and happy in his dream. So he texted me and said hope I'm doing fine and happy like in his dream. He still loved me even we can't be together, and so do I. I was exactly what he wanted, and he was exactly I wanted and I prayed for long time. My family and my friends said "If he wanted he would". I thought about it for long time, until I realized. It's not about if he wanted he would. But I believe if Allah has written everything, if he is meant for me. How hard the way, we will be together. However everything happens by Allah's permission. I believe no one met randomly. He's the one who set the standards for me. He respects me and my boundaries, he keeps the consistency, and makes me feel safe and can feminine around him. He's the first healthy relationship I've ever had. At the first I was really sad. How I can meet someone who was exactly like what I prayed for? But I believe, there are still many good guy in this world. Maybe my future husband still struggles to find me😅

Now we don't talk anymore, I deleted his contact, I removed his social media account, I tried to move forward and never looked back. But until this now, deep down in my heart says "It's him" I won't to be delulu and waiting someone who never meant to be. But I still pray everything the best for him.

If you read this, please help me through this phase. I want to move forward:)

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Muhammad Umar

@paradox_umar

21 days ago

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@BmanCB

22 days ago

PhD advisors when their student says he wants to work in industry instead of making theoretical contributions with p hacked papers