Mental health

16K views · 587 reactions | LOVE vs. ADAPTATION TO FEAR Codependency and enmeshment are often confused, but there are significant differences between these concepts. ❤️‍🩹Enmeshment “I love you because I need you.” It is an adaptation to the fear of abandonment through suppressing one’s own needs and denying oneself by mirroring the partner. It is the loss of individuality as a way to stay connected. ❤️‍🩹Codependency “I love you because you need me.” It is an adaptation to the fear of abandonment through complete immersion in the life of a troubled partner. A sense of importance and irreplaceability is maintained through control, resulting in losing oneself for the sake of the other person. ❤️‍🩹Counter-dependency “I do not need you.” It is an adaptation to the fear of abandonment through avoiding the recognition of one’s need for relationships and emotional closeness. ❤️Healthy emotional attachment “I need you because I love you.” There is no confusion between aloneness and being unwanted or abandoned. There is no fear of separateness from the other person. There is the capacity to stay in contact with oneself and to tolerate the feelings that significant others in the past could not handle. 🔷Behind the fear of abandonment often lies the absence of a developed skill of self-regulation. #traumabond #traumabonding #avoidant #avoidantattachment #relationshiptips | Irina Yusupova