Muslims in Sweden

I've been on Muzz for a couple of months now, and every now and then, I come across posts that make me laugh, feel sad, or sometimes even feel a little disheartened.

But one thing I've noticed is that the same conversation keeps coming up again and again. Men say they're serious about marriage but keep coming across women who aren't. Women, on the other hand, say they're serious about marriage but keep coming across men who aren't.

And honestly, isn't that a paradox in itself? 😂

Both sides seem to be looking for the same thing, yet both feel like they're struggling to find it in the other.

Perhaps the issue isn't simply that one side is serious and the other isn't. Maybe we're all looking at the situation from our own individual perspectives, focusing on our own experiences and disappointments, without taking a step back to see the bigger picture.

We tend to judge the whole based on the parts we've encountered, forgetting that our personal experiences, however real they may be, don't necessarily tell the whole story.

Maybe the real problem is that we're so focused on being understood that we forget to try to understand each other.

And until we learn to look beyond our own perspectives, acknowledge each other's experiences, and approach this with a little more empathy and self-reflection, I wonder how much will really change.

After all, we're supposedly here for the same reason. So perhaps it's time we stopped looking at each other as the problem and started asking ourselves what we might be missing.

Folk på Muzz har ingen personlighet. Jama känns mer real

Hi, Assalyamu aleykum 🙂
Where am I?

I am open to finding my life partner in Pakistan or abroad. I would love to meet an educated, responsible, respectful, and emotionally mature man who is genuinely ready for marriage.

I value loyalty, good character, stability, and clear communication. I believe two people can build a beautiful future when they share sincere intentions and respect each other's dreams.

Looking for a serious halal marriage, with the intention of building a life together.

People influence here ha…..??????

Free palestine

What is this people are influencing here ,this is a joke 😂😂😂.

As for me, I wasn’t always like this. I found myself living in front of a hypocritical, lying society where everything negative is tolerated and men are allowed to get away with almost anything. That’s why, for me, respect is only given to people who deserve it. Anyone who doesn’t respect himself or respect me will get the same energy back.
I used to be innocent and quiet. An ignorant Muslim man would come and stop me in the street, whistle right next to me, throw his phone number at me, and pressure me into giving him mine, as if I were his slave or some object being bought and sold in a slave market.
I would tell myself not to respond, not to give him my time, and simply walk away. But he would keep following me like a dog. And then, the idiot would go even further.
Not anymore. Now I stand up for myself and give them the same energy they give me. Let whoever wants to come at me come. I may be only 1.50 metres tall, but I have fire in me. I refuse to stay silent when it comes to my rights. I know my responsibilities, too. And this attitude has caused me so many problems in this hopeless society, with all kinds of people: young and old, educated and respectable people, as well as crazy and ignorant ones.
I’m no longer afraid of the opinion of this disgusting society. Whenever a woman speaks up about her rights and defends herself, people start making disgusting assumptions about her. They tell her to be careful what she says because they will blame her for everything and call her a bad woman, someone who isn’t respectable or well-raised. They even say she was the reason she got harassed or raped, as if she must have done something to deserve it.
I don’t care about their opinions. Let them keep their judgments to themselves. They don’t matter to me at all. I’ll speak even louder if they can’t handle what I have to say.
A harasser doesn’t suddenly become a rapist out of nowhere. He often starts with harassment, and when nobody confronts him or holds him accountable, he may keep escalating until he feels comfortable committing sexual violence openly, as if it were normal, without fear or consequences. Some men even drag girls by their hair, abduct them with their friends, and assault them as though they have complete freedom to do whatever they want. And then some go on to target children, both girls and boys.
Why does all this happen? Because women have been told to stay silent, not to speak up, and to just accept everything. Because men are idolised, protected, and rarely held accountable. People act as if there are no laws that apply to them, even though Islam commands men to respect women and treat them with dignity.
Islam gives women honour and dignity. A woman is not supposed to be treated like a servant. A husband is responsible for providing for his wife, and she deserves care, protection, and respect. If she chooses to help him by cleaning or cooking, that is an act of kindness on her part, not something that should automatically be forced upon her. She is not obligated to do all of that simply because she is a woman. Nor is she obligated to take care of his parents; they are his responsibility, and he is the one commanded to honour and care for them. If she helps him with that, it is out of her own generosity and kindness.
Yet some people have turned men into sacred beings and allowed them to get away with things that are forbidden in Islam. They excuse almost everything a man does simply because he is a man.
Honestly, I wish men could live as women for a whole year, a month, or even just one day. Imagine experiencing menstruation and our mood changes, carrying a pregnancy, giving birth, going to work, and pursuing your education while dealing with all the things women go through.
Then imagine going outside to breathe some fresh air or enjoy the beautiful nature Allah created, only to have some ignorant man harass you or attempt to rape you. And imagine being expected to respect him and stay silent simply because he is a man.
Imagine being told that whatever he does is acceptable, while you are expected to tolerate it and remain quiet. I want men to experience everything women are expected to endure and then tell us how they feel and what it was like for them.
Honestly, I wish every man who thinks this way could experience this, including those who believe women should simply put up with harassment and abuse.
Some men say, “Don’t you dare go near my daughter, my sister, my mother, my wife, my aunt, my maternal aunt, or my female cousins.” They may even say that these women must be respected regardless of what they wear, because nobody has the right to approach or harass them.
But when it comes to other women, suddenly the rules change. Those women can be harassed or raped regardless of what they wear. They can dress modestly, cover themselves completely, or even wear armour, and some men will still follow them and harass them.
Apparently, the only rule that matters is that you must not touch the women who belong to them. Those women must be respected even if they do not dress modestly, but other women can be harassed or assaulted whether they cover themselves or not.
Do you see the contradiction? You still consider yourselves men while applying completely different standards to women depending on whether they belong to your family.
There are so many contradictions in this hypocritical society, a society that contradicts the very religion it claims to follow. I am so tired of these ideas. You have exhausted us with this mentality of idolising men and making excuses for them, no matter what they do.
It is far too much. Too much hypocrisy, too many double standards, and far too many excuses for men who refuse to take responsibility for their actions.

Feeling Bored 🥱😴

Would you move to your partners hometown?