Muslims in Canada

One thing I wish some men on Muzz would understand: a woman’s heart is not a place to pass time.
If you approach a woman, talk to her about marriage, make her believe there could be a future, and slowly become part of her thoughts and emotions, please understand that those conversations mean something to her.
Don’t give her hope of marriage, make promises about a future together, make her emotionally invest in you—and then suddenly block her without a word.
If you change your mind, just say it.
If you don’t feel the connection anymore, just be honest.
If you decide you don’t want to continue, say goodbye.
It may take you only a few seconds to send a message, but disappearing without an explanation can leave someone questioning everything they said, everything they felt, and even their own worth.
Muzz is supposed to be a place for people genuinely looking for marriage—not a place to collect attention, create emotional attachments, or make someone believe in a future you were never serious about.
You don't owe everyone a marriage, but you do owe people honesty and basic respect.
A woman who is serious about marriage is not asking for too much when she asks for clarity, consistency, and sincerity.
If you cannot offer those things, please don't give her hope in the first place. ❤️

“I never wanted to be someone’s everything. I just wanted to be someone they would never intentionally hurt.”

“I’m no longer asking why certain people left. I’m learning to trust that Allah knows which hearts are meant to stay.”

I’ve noticed something in a lot of marriage profiles and even in conversations when getting to know someone. People often say, “I want someone who balances Deen and Dunya.”

But I’ve always wondered, what exactly does that mean?

When we talk about balance, aren’t we usually talking about giving equal importance to two things? So are we saying Deen and Dunya should be 50-50?

Because from what I understand, we weren’t sent into this world to make Dunya our priority. We are here to worship Allah, live according to His guidance, and prepare for our Akhirah. Dunya is temporary, and it’s supposed to be a means of reaching our destination, not the destination itself.

And here’s what confuses me even more.

Some people talk about balancing Deen and Dunya, but how much do we actually know about our Deen?

Do we know about our Prophets? Do we know who the Sahaba were and what they sacrificed for Islam? Do we know about the Ahle Bait, their lives, their struggles, and the sacrifices they made? Do we know about the martyrs who gave their lives for Islam?

I’m not saying everyone needs to be an Islamic scholar. I’m certainly not one myself, and I have a lot to learn. But shouldn’t we at least have the curiosity to learn about the people and the history that shaped our faith?

We spend years studying for degrees, building careers, learning new skills, and keeping up with everything happening in the world. There’s nothing wrong with that. Islam doesn’t tell us to abandon our responsibilities, careers, families, or worldly needs.

But why is learning about our Deen so often treated as something we do only when we have time left?

To me, the issue isn’t about having a career, enjoying life, or being successful. The issue is when we start treating Deen and Dunya as two competing priorities that deserve equal importance.

Shouldn’t our Deen be the foundation of how we live our Dunya?

Maybe instead of saying “I want to balance Deen and Dunya,” we should say “I want to live my Dunya according to my Deen.”

Because ultimately, we aren’t taking our degrees, wealth, careers, or social status to our graves. What matters is how we lived, what we believed, and what we did with the time Allah gave us.

And before someone jumps into the comments to label this thinking as too conservative, extreme, or old-fashioned, understand that questioning a popular phrase doesn’t mean rejecting worldly life.

I’m not here to judge anyone’s level of faith. Allah knows our hearts better than anyone. I’m simply questioning whether we sometimes use religious-sounding phrases without thinking deeply about what they mean.

You are welcome to disagree, but at least disagree with knowledge and understanding rather than just because something challenges your modern way of thinking.

May Allah grant all of us Hidayah, including myself, and help us prioritize our Akhirah without neglecting our responsibilities in this Dunya. Ameen.

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I feel like we need to create a group for practicing Muslims, one where everyone must answer certain questions to get in (pray 5x a day, no smoking no drinking etc) to help ppl find each other. Not even the current muzz labels (practicing status) helps. I’ve seen many who put ‘strictly practicing’ but do major things like not pray or drink. Not judging anyone, but I feel like if you are trying to find someone who follows the basics, as yourself does, it’s very hard filter out using the current system.

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e day, someone will understand why I kept my heart guarded for so long.” ❤️