Converts / Reverts
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The Qur’an says:
“Marry off those among you who are single…”
— Surah An-Nur 24:32
And Prophet Muhammad said:
“When someone whose religion and character you are pleased with comes to you (seeking marriage), then marry him/her. If you do not do so, there will be tribulation and widespread corruption on earth.”
Classical Islamic scholars understood from this that parents or guardians should not obstruct marriage without a valid Islamic reason.
Valid concerns can include:
Serious problems with religion or character
Abuse, dishonesty, addiction, irresponsibility
Clear incompatibility that would harm the marriage
But delaying or refusing marriage purely because of ethnicity or caste
social status
wealth expectations
cultural pride
excessive control
unrealistic standards
wanting the child to remain dependent
is generally criticized in Islamic teachings.
For daughters specifically, unjustly preventing marriage is known in Islamic law as “ʿaḍl” (wrongful obstruction by a guardian), which is condemned in the Qur’an:
“Do not prevent them from marrying their husbands when they mutually agree in a lawful manner.”
— Surah Al-Baqarah 2:232
At the same time, Islam still emphasizes respect and kindness toward parents, even during disagreement. The ideal approach is:
•calm discussion
•involving trusted family elders
•calm discussion
•involving trusted family elders
•seeking help from knowledgeable scholars/imams
•making istikhārah and du‘ā’ seeking help from knowledgeable scholars/imams
making istikhārah and du‘ā’
Parents usually act from fear, protectiveness, culture, or concern, even when they are mistaken. Islam encourages balance: children should honor parents, and parents should not abuse their authority.
And finally I realize, the answer to all the great questions echoing in my heart comes down to just one truth. I simply lost sight of the fact that this world is merely a test, a fleeting journey meant to guide me toward my ultimate purpose, long after my time on this earth has come to an end♥️
I realize where I made my mistake, I forgot what my Pops told me a long time ago. He said :
“Son if you want to have eternal PEACE in your life you have to lower your expectations, and increase your acceptance.”
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I never quite understood where to apply that really until now.
You see I had high expectations from this Ummah only to learn that the Deen is perfect, but the people are far from that. That’s where the acceptance comes in. I’m still learning how to accept the shortcomings of the racism, division, prejudice, and overall hypocrisy of some of the community that are in charge of wider communities.
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I now understand it’s ok to speak up against this because some voices cannot be heard. I was once told that the most difficult Jihad was the one with yourself. The Nafs ( Self ) are constantly in battle and that’s where the practice of our faith comes in.
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It gives us hope, and strength to continue our fight, and increases our tolerance. I guess with all that has happened over the last few years my tolerance has decreased significantly. But now that I’m aware I know now I have to go harder in practice, increase my acceptance and continue to advocate against the things I don’t agree with. Someone said BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD 🌎
Here are some short marriage quotes and prophetic sayings about marriage in Islam:
“The best of you are those best to their wives.”
Prophet Muhammad
“Marriage is part of my sunnah.”
“When love is true, it brings mercy.”
“A righteous spouse is the best treasure.”
“The best home is one built on faith.”
“Kindness is the foundation of marriage.”
“Marriage completes half of faith.”
“Love grows through patience and respect.”
“The strongest hearts are joined by mercy.”
“A happy marriage begins with good character.”
“Spouses are garments for one another.”
(From the Quran, Surah Al-Baqarah 2:187)
“Where there is mercy, there is barakah.”
“Choose character over beauty.”
“A peaceful home is a blessing.”
“Faith and love make a marriage beautiful.”
“The best families are built with compassion.”
“Good character makes love last.”
“Marriage is teamwork guided by faith.”
“The best partner brings you closer to Allah.”
“Love with compassion, lead with kindness.”
About the importance of marriage
“Marriage is part of my sunnah, and whoever does not follow my sunnah has nothing to do with me.”
“When a person marries, they have fulfilled half of their religion.”
“O young people, whoever among you can marry should marry, for it helps lower the gaze and guard chastity.”
About kindness to one’s spouse
“The best of you are those who are best to their wives.”
“A believing man should not hate a believing woman. If he dislikes one trait in her, he will be pleased with another.”
“The most perfect believers in faith are those best in character, and the best of you are those best to their women.”
About love and compassion in marriage
“The world is but a provision, and the best provision of the world is a righteous wife.”
“Nothing is placed on the scale heavier than good character.”
“Treat women kindly.”
About choosing a spouse
“A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty, and her
religion. Choose the religious one.”
“If there comes to you one whose religion and character please you, then marry him.”
About family life
“Each of you is a shepherd, and each of you is responsible for his flock.”
“The best among you is the one who is best to his family.”
Eid Mubarak and Eid greetings to all, both known and unknown.❤️❤️
🌙 Eid Mubarak 🌙
May Allah fill our lives with peace, barakah & sincere connections. Here with genuine intentions for Nikah, seeking a bond built on Deen, respect, loyalty & mercy. 🤍
