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Why are more and more people on the marriage side including their social media account handle 🙄

Are you looking for a partner or a follower?

@shaz …maybe look at stopping people doing this? People are just using the site to get more followers and not here for the purpose of finding the one.

Am i the only one who feels like people here are not serious about getting married?

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Let's start a trend Fridays are Jumma and full on selfie post day. Go for it flood it !!!
10 to 20 pix

I bought this to give to my Queen. Do you think it's UGLY?

Asking the women of Jamaa.
On a first date what would you prefer as a gift: Would you rather Clive Christian No1 Feminine
Or
Creed Aventis for Her?

Assalamu aleikum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatu, everyone. 🧡🌸
I am in a bit "ranty" mood today...💁🏼‍♀️ I had a minute of "free" time with my tea, and decided to let you on, on one of my worries...
At times I have a wee scroll through the posts on this app, and honestly... I can hardly believe what I'm reading.
As the mother of a 22-year-old son, I often have to remind myself that the people posting here are adults. Grown adults. People who, in theory, are looking for marriage, hoping to build families, raise children, and navigate real life.
Yet half the time it feels like I've accidentally wandered into an online nursery.
I genuinely don't mean that to be cruel—it actually worries me.
Every other post seems to be about manga, animated films, collecting cute stickers, building LEGO castles, watching disney movies, showing off today's matcha, calling yourselves "babies", flirting endlessly in the comments and calling it "banter", or gossiping about complete strangers as if it's a full-time occupation.
I'm not saying people shouldn't have hobbies or enjoy simple things. I still enjoy plenty of "childish" things myself from time to time. That's not the issue.
The issue is that, for many people, this seems to be adulthood.
Somewhere along the way we've raised a generation that has been so sheltered, so protected, and so immersed in online culture that many seem to have skipped the part where you actually learn how to be an adult. Instead of gradually stepping into the real world, we've allowed an entire digital one to become a substitute for it.
A huge chunk of life now happens through a screen.
People form what they genuinely believe are deep relationships online. Then the drama begins...
"He left me on read."
"She blocked me."
"We broke up."
I'm sorry... but throwing a full-blown emotional crisis over an "online relationship" between two people who've barely shared any real life together just makes me shake my head. Of course it's disappointing when any connection ends, but some people speak as though they've lost a spouse rather than someone they've exchanged memes with for three months.
Real relationships happen in the real world. They involve shared experiences, responsibilities, sacrifice, awkward silences, compromise, meeting each other's families, and seeing one another beyond a carefully curated profile picture.
This app is supposed to be social, but I sometimes wonder whether it's actually making people less social. It keeps people permanently engaged, permanently distracted, permanently entertained—but not necessarily growing. It fills every quiet moment with another scroll, another post, another comment, another notification... while real life is quietly waiting in the background, at home, at work,in the cafe, in the queue in Tesco or M&S.
What saddens me even more is seeing genuinely beneficial Islamic reminders, thoughtful discussions, or posts with real purpose receive barely any attention, no constructive discussions, no learning curves, no sharing values. Yet someone posts, "Look everyone, I made blueberry pancakes for breakfast!" and suddenly the comments fill up faster than a mosque🕌 on Eid, when the meal is served.
If making blueberry pancakes was my greatest achievement at twenty-seven, my parents would probably have held a family meeting to discuss where they went wrong.🤦🏼‍♀️🙈
As a mother, I look at all of this and genuinely wonder...
How are you planning to build a marriage🧕🏽🤵‍♂️ if your emotional world exists almost entirely online?
How are you going to raise children if adulthood itself feels optional?
What values will you teach them if your biggest daily achievement is choosing between oat milk and almond milk for your matcha?🍼🍵🫖
Perhaps this isn't entirely your fault. Many of you were raised in a culture where every difficulty was softened, every boredom immediately cured by a screen, every uncomfortable feeling validated rather than challenged and especially girls were treated like precious gems that needs to be held in the safe and spoiled to the brim, as they present immense value of a beauty. But beauty itself is nothing that can prepare person for daily life. Resilience isn't built that way. Neither is maturity.
Sometimes I look at my own son and think, "Right... today we're learning how to ring the GP without rehearsing the conversation seventeen times,panick attack and tantrum followed by small mental brakedown."
Because one day you,young adults won't just be someone's children anymore—you'll be someone's husband, someone's wife, someone's parent. Life won't care how many followers you had or how many online friends called you "bestie."
And that's what genuinely worries me.
I sincerely hope this generation eventually leaves the "online nursery" and discovers the real world waiting outside, at home🏠, at work🏢, in the queueinTesco or M&S.
Now, if you'll excuse me, I'm off to remind my fully-grown son that the washing machine doesn't magically empty itself... Although judging by his confidence since yesterday, he seems convinced there's a tiny laundry fairy living in the washing machine drawer.🤷🏼‍♀️

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