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I have a question for you all if someone has a birthmark all over them and basically their skin colour is red do you think that stops them from finding a serious relationship I want your thoughts 🤔
Ghosting is cruel...
We never know if the person we ghost is actually hoping a lot for us or not. Whatever makes us doubt someone, at least communicate it well. Leave in a good way so we don’t hurt or break someone’s hope. Be someone who is elegant and classy.
Come with good intentions, then leave in a noble way too. Why?
That’s where our ethics and intelligence in acting and treating others show. There’s nothing wrong with explaining why we’re rejecting someone, in a way that’s kind and doesn’t hurt their feelings. Remember, karma is real. 😅😅
Okay. Can I ask you all about my friend. Just a general opinion.
Who is right ? Share your opinion?
Allah knows the best.
His story:
He came UK as student and met one lady. Got married.
He had money for example 25000, this is what all he had and girl and her parents know this.
He had job in other city but as he qualified girl insisted to relocate and get job there in her city.
Then he moved to other city, complete his last semester and tried hard 5 months for job in his field.
He is the one who spend 25% of his all money in marriage and rest he rented house and run the house for 6 months.
Then after he didn't get job in his field he take temporary job in other field.
He had no bad habit what ever he earn he transfer all the money into girl's account. After 6 month which is now 1 year and 3 months after marriage both are blessed with beautiful daughter.
Girl have good job. So they mutually decide that boy will stay at home until their beautiful daughter will be 1 and 5 year then he will again apply for job.
All is clear, planned and discussed mutually.
Then after 1 and half year girl want to buy the house.
This guy view nearly half of city to find house where they can give bright future to their beautiful daughter.
The guy helped the girl in all the process of purchase. Girl want the property near her parents house.
So, after viewing and analysis both agree to buy property near her parents but problem is property was damaged.
Girl asked the boy can you make it. Boy said yes I can but give me time and then I will do job after.
Girl agreed that she will give time. All planned,decided mutually.
In all this girls mother made lot of problem for this guy.
Her mother said bad about boy even after 4 months of marriage and do call to her daughter every day and also when they blessed with daughter and same going on.
Now when they moved to new property boy asked for some luggage and stuff to keep in her parents house but they denied and argument started.
But again girl said she want to live with this boy. And ask boy to please prepare the property.
But boy said even if you leave me after this I will do this for my daughter.
Then when first floor is ready to live.
Girl said get job otherwise I want divorce.
Boy tried to convince her for 2nd week to complete property first and then he will find job.
But he failed so in 3rd week he agree that he will find job.
Then next week girl said you need to find job more than 60000 salary.
Boy said okay I will try. Then next week girl said even you will have job I don't want to live with you.
During this boy continuously try to reconcile and at last he successful to convince her but girl said I want to ask my parents and brother that I want to continue with you or not.
This is the movement boy decide to take matter formally and applied for mediation.
He said this girl is adult enough to make her decision and can safe her family but why she is asking others to safe her family.
Girl threatening boy that she will report the boy.
Boy said its okay he has trust upon Allah.
Now girl cancelled the boy visa.
I’d rather be honest about my disability to my future wife because lying is haram, and I want her to love me for who I am, not a fake version. I work hard every day, I am independent, and I can provide and protect. If she accepts me, she accepts my strength and my struggle — and that is real love.
Just a rant and also some knowledge I want to share.
It’s clear no one reads people bios apart from me 🤣
I put on mine that I am seeking someone UK born or brought up in the UK - it is my preference don’t come at me.
Now because no one reads my bio, I get individuals liking my profile who are clearly not born or brought up in the UK - you want to know how I guess this and get it right every single time, before scrolling down to the bottom?
If a guy has a picture posing at a shopping centre, he definitely, 100% has not been brought up in the UK. I kid you not and when I realise that, it only confirms it for me when I scroll to the bottom because their profile says they grew up somewhere other than the UK. Haha!
Now for anyone who doesn’t care where someone grew up then that’s fine, but I have a preference and it is frustrating that no one reads my profile because I waste time going through profiles to then realise the person is not what I am after.
Thanks for reading - getting that off my chest feels good haha.
Peace and blessings.
How a Malignant Female Narcissist Can Disrupt Families and Alienate a Man From His Relatives
Not every difficult relationship involves narcissism, and “malignant narcissist” is not a clinical diagnosis used casually. In psychology, the pattern refers to a mix of narcissistic traits with manipulation, hostility, and low empathy. The behaviours below describe documented relational patterns, not a label for any specific person.
Gradual Isolation From Family
She may slowly discourage contact with his family, framing relatives as toxic, disrespectful, or intrusive. Over time, visits, calls, and emotional closeness with his family decrease without obvious confrontation at first.
Creating “Us vs Them” Thinking
The relationship becomes framed as loyalty to her versus disloyalty to his family. This polarisation pressures the man to choose sides, weakening extended family bonds.
Emotional Guilt and Pressure
Guilt is used as a tool: “If you loved me, you wouldn’t go there,” or “They don’t respect us.” This shifts decision-making from balance to emotional compliance.
Rewriting Reality of His Family
Interactions with his family may be reframed as attacks, disrespect, or neglect even when neutral or minor. This can lead the man to doubt his own interpretation of events.
Controlling Access to Communication
She may monitor, limit, or influence phone calls, visits, or messages with family members, often under the justification of stress, boundaries, or protection.
Triangulation Between Family Members
Conflicts are sometimes amplified by passing messages indirectly, misrepresenting conversations, or selectively sharing information to create tension between relatives.
Undermining His Confidence in Family
Over time, she may repeatedly criticise his family’s behaviour, values, or intentions, weakening his emotional attachment and trust in them.
Emotional Dependency Creation
As family bonds weaken, the man may become more emotionally dependent on her approval, validation, and interpretation of reality.
Conflict Escalation at Key Moments
Tension often increases around holidays, weddings, pregnancies, or financial decisions, where family unity is normally strongest.
Replacement of Family Identity
His primary emotional identity may gradually shift from being part of a wider family system to being mainly defined through the relationship.
Psychological Pattern
Research on coercive control and relational manipulation shows that isolation from support networks is a common feature in abusive dynamics. It is not exclusive to any gender and can occur in any direction within relationships.
Healthy relationships, in contrast, allow both partners to maintain respectful connections with their families while setting fair and independent boundaries.
The Trend of Marrying Cousins Abroad and Bringing Them to the UK — Social and Cultural Realities
In some immigrant communities, cousin marriages and transnational marriages continue due to family tradition, cultural familiarity, economic support, and pressure to preserve kinship ties. Research shows these marriages are often connected to family expectations, migration patterns, and maintaining extended family loyalty.
Marrying to Please Parents
Many marriages are influenced heavily by parental expectations and family honour rather than personal compatibility. The marriage may be viewed as fulfilling family duty, preserving tradition, or strengthening family alliances across countries.
Bringing a Spouse to the UK
In some cases, marriage becomes connected to migration opportunities, financial stability, or helping relatives abroad establish themselves in the UK. Studies note that extended family interests can play a major role in these arrangements.
Culture Shock
A spouse arriving from another country may experience major cultural adjustment difficulties, including differences in lifestyle, gender expectations, social norms, communication styles, and independence.
The UK-born spouse may also struggle because both individuals were raised in completely different environments despite sharing ethnicity or religion.
Language Barriers
Limited English proficiency can create emotional distance, dependency, misunderstanding, and isolation within the marriage and wider society. Research on immigrant families in the UK links language barriers to communication problems and emotional strain.
Lack of Compatibility
Shared family background does not automatically create emotional or psychological compatibility. Differences in education, values, expectations, emotional maturity, and worldview may emerge after marriage.
Some couples discover they were connected more by family arrangement than genuine understanding.
Financial and Family Pressure
In certain situations, the UK-based spouse becomes financially responsible not only for their partner but also for extended family obligations abroad. This can create pressure, resentment, and imbalance within the marriage.
Family Interference
Because the marriage is tied closely to extended relatives, boundaries may become weak. Decisions about the marriage may involve parents, cousins, and family elders rather than the couple independently.
Emotional Isolation
Some spouses struggle socially after migration due to homesickness, lack of support networks, loneliness, or inability to integrate into British society. This can increase dependency and marital tension.
Generational Conflict
UK-born individuals are often raised with different expectations regarding marriage, communication, gender roles, and independence compared to spouses raised abroad. This difference can create long-term conflict within the relationship and in parenting styles.
Changing Attitudes
Research and public discussion in the UK show younger generations increasingly prioritise emotional compatibility, communication, education, and shared values over traditional family-arranged cousin marriages.
And on the 3rd day god created bolt action sniper rifle so mankind can protect themselves against dinosaurs and homosexuals.
