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I'm not sorry for spamming photos of my adventures, but y'all can we just appreciate this view? I saw the sunset from my window and just had to jog down to catch it by the bay. SubhanAllah

The amount of lustful men on this app is crazy… and you wanna know what’s even more crazy? It’s gotten worse since I’ve started wearing a hijab 😩
Also why don’t you men read profiles !!!! Please read it so you don’t waste peoples time
Some of us don’t wanna be on here till we’re 40 years old lol

The best way to deal with phoniness is not to be the audience for their theatrics 😉🎭

أفضل طريقة للتعامل مع الزيف هي ألا تكون جمهوراً لعروضهم المسرحية 😉🎭

ASHABI ADE: THE SISTER I NEVER AGREED WITH BUT COULD NEVER DO WITHOUT, BENEATH THE ARGUMENT WAS ALWAYS PURE LOVE❤️🔥 (My Dad Thought I Needed Patience. My Sister Thought I Hated Her 😂)

Have you ever had a sibling that you genuinely love with all your heart, but if both of you stay together for too long, World War III is inevitable🤣. The kind of sibling that can annoy you to the point of madness😫, yet the mere thought of something bad happening to them makes your heart ache.
💞You know they love you.
💞You know you love them.
Yet somehow, peace between both of you is always hanging by a thread.

My immediate younger sister and I are exactly like that. Growing up, we never really agreed on anything. We are complete opposites. I am very disciplined, naturally authoritative as the first daughter, calculative, and someone who values structure and order. I value my personal space, think before I act, and can be a bit too serious for my own good. I like things done properly and I'm not exactly known for overlooking nonsense. My sister, on the other hand, is loud, energetic, fearless, outspoken, dramatic when she wants to be, and wears her emotions on her sleeves. She's the type of person who will walk into a room and her presence will immediately be felt. She says exactly what's on her mind without overthinking it and never backs down when she believes she's right.
💞Where I am cautious, she is impulsive.
💞Where I am calculating, she follows her heart.
💞Where I prefer diplomacy, she prefers confrontation.
💞Where I value order and structure, she can comfortably thrive in chaos. Chai😫 such a trouble maker

Now imagine putting someone like her together with someone like me. Disaster😫!Whenever we're under the same roof for too long, friction is almost guaranteed. She thinks I'm too controlling. I think she's too stubborn. She loves breathing space. I believe in correcting every little thing. Countless of times she has looked me straight in the eye and said: "I know you hate me." And I would just be wondering how she arrived at that conclusion. Because the truth is, I don't hate her🤷‍♀️ In fact, when I think about it, she's been my cheerleader from day one.

Looking back now, it's no surprise we spent a good part of our lives either getting along beautifully or preparing for our next disagreement.I remember our days at Ansar-Ud-Deen Junior Girls School, Odo Eran Itire, Lagos. Everyone who knew me then knew I was a very serious student. Not because I was naturally quiet, but because my father was a disciplinarian of the highest order. That man could appear in school at any given time without notice. All the teachers in the staff room to the cleaners, security officers knew me because of him. I was literally schooling under close supervision. So I was always careful, watchful, and trying to stay out of trouble.

Then my sister joined the school.
Omo...🙉

The entire school got confused🤣🤣🤣. I had actually begged my dad not to bring her to my school because, as usual, we were not seeing eye to eye and I didn't want her anywhere around me.

My father refused😭.
And that was how my personal bodyguard was enrolled. ASHABI ADE🔥

My sister would confront anybody she felt was trying to bully, intimidate, or oppress me in her head. One day during a class election in JSS, my class teacher asked three of us contestants, including myself, to step outside while the voting was going on. As I stood outside the classroom waiting, my sister somehow spotted me through her classroom window.

Before anybody could blink👀 Vooooom💃!!! She ran out of her own class straight to my classroom and shouted: "WHO IS LOOKING FOR MY SISTER'S TROUBLE?!" "You people should not touch my sister ooo!"

The funniest part? Immediately she noticed my class teacher standing there, all her confidence disappeared. 🤣🤣🤣 OLE OMO. Her voice suddenly reduced. My teacher had already heard about her reputation around the school and immediately instructed her to kneel down. Even while kneeling, she refused to keep quiet.

ASHABI ADE:
"Sir, my sister is outside. They want to bully her!"
"Sir, my sister is outside!"

My teacher eventually shouted:
"KEEP QUIET!"😂😂😂

After the election ended, we were all called back into the classroom. Then the result was announced. I had won as the new Class Captain. My sister immediately forgot she was serving punishment. She jumped up, carried me, and shouted:

"YESSSS! MY SISTER WON!"
"You people are olodo!" 😱😱😱

Then she started pointing at some of the students she had already labelled as my enemies. I repeat also in her fish brain 😫

"See them! Shebi na only fight una sabi! My sister is the Class Captain!"

Mind you, these people were her seniors. That day, they dealt with my sister mercilessly after school ehnnn she saw shege banza. Only for my class teacher to rescue her and took her to his office.
Till today, whenever I remember that incident, I laugh🤣🤣🤣. This same sister of mine would bring leftovers from her lunch break to my class because she felt I should eat too. I remembered during my undergraduate days, she would send me feeding allowance from her savings despite not having a job. Yet let us stay together under one roof for one week🙉 cold war, arguments, misunderstandings and silence🤣🤣🤣

Growing up, she regularly reported me to my dad for being hostile towards her. My dad would always tell me: "Abebi, you need to be more diplomatic with your younger siblings." Maybe he was right🤷‍♀️. Maybe he saw what I couldn't see, maybe love doesn't always come wrapped in sweetness or some of the deepest forms of love are hidden beneath arguments, stubbornness, complaints, and years of pretending not to care. The truth is, I don't hate her🥰 I never have. I just find it harder to overlook her excesses than I do with my other siblings.

The funny thing is, despite all our disagreements, if anything happens to either of us, the other person immediately forgets every quarrel. My sister is the same person who checks up on me when I'm sick, sends messages to make sure I'm okay, recommends every drug she thinks can help, and constantly asks about my health. And me? I can't stand hearing that she's in pain, struggling, or going through difficulties. It genuinely affects me, and my first instinct is always to help like a mother hen that I am💯

Her birthday is on the 16th of June, and today I found myself reflecting on our childhood memories and our strange relationship. We've never been the "best friend" type of sisters.

🥰But she has always been my sister
🥰 My defender.
🥰 My secret supporter.
🥰 My cheerleader.

If life has taught me anything, it's that some of the deepest forms of love don't always come wrapped in sweetness. Sometimes they're hidden beneath arguments, stubbornness, complaints, misunderstandings, and years of saying,

ABEBI ADE:

"GET OUT FROM MY ROOM!!"
"WILL YOU KEEP QUIET!!"
"GET LOST!!"
"WHY ARE YOU THIS ANNOYING"
"WITCH COME HERE ooo"
"DON'T WASTE MY TIME" 🤣🤣🤣

ASHABI ADE:
"IT'S YOUR MOTHER THAT'S A WITCH"
"SHEBI I WAS JUST JOKING WITH YOU NAWWW"
"WICKED GIRL"
"I KNOW YOU HATE ME AND I DO NOT CARE"
"SOMEBODY CAN NOT TALK TO YOU AGAIN"
"WILL YOU EAT JOLLOF RICE?"
"TAKE I GIVE YOU THIS LIPGLOSS, PERFUME AND TOTE BAG, IF YOU DON'T WANT GIVE ME BACK BEFORE YOU SAY WHO SENT ME"

May Allah bless her new age abundantly. May He grant her good health, long life upon righteousness, peace of mind, happiness, barakah in all she does, and make her among His most beloved servants. May every silent prayer in her heart be answered with goodness beyond her expectations. May Allah protect her from every evil, surround her with His mercy, and make her successful in this life and in the Hereafter. Ameen🤲❤️

So tell me🤷‍♀️
Do you also have that one sibling you can argue with all day, but would move mountains for without thinking twice?

#Allahumabarik
#Abebiade

Why do I have the reform flag on my face.

There’s a rule I learned from my experiences with people: expect the worst from them until you deal with them. If the opposite happens, you’ll be pleasantly surprised.
if what you expected happens, you won't be upset or shocked.

Germany Ausbildung Information 🇩🇪🔗✅ https://youtu.be/FxamlcwdHkI

fr though, this is my last world cup unmarried

it's coming home!! 😂😂

Beautiful ladies, handsome men -when someone takes a few days to text back, does it usually mean they're busy, uninterested, or keeping their options open? In your experience, who is more likely to be doing that?

Just my neighborhood cat watcher 🐱