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looking for a man A MANN!

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Hello ✌🏻

Salaam Everyone,
I'd appreciate some honest advice. I've been using Muzz for a few months with the sincere goal of finding a spouse. Despite sending respectful compliments to profiles I genuinely felt compatible with, I haven't had the opportunity to connect with anyone yet.

It has made me curious about today's expectations. What do most women prioritize when choosing a potential husband? For context, I am foreign quailifed, a stable career, and will soon be relocating to Europe for a postdoctoral position.

I would sincerely value thought insights.

Aazmaish

I don’t see this world as anything but a place of trials. Everyone has their own, and I’ve had my fair share of aazmaish too Alhamdulillah, enough that I could never be ungrateful for.

Growing up in a Desi household with three siblings and somehow being the favorite child of my parents? Aazmaish.
(When you’re showered with extra love and given more than you deserve, you don’t usually think of it as a test. But perhaps the test is whether you remain grateful for blessings you never truly earned)

Getting a fracture the night before a movie outing with friends during my college days? Aazmaish.
(At the time it felt disappointing, but looking back, I often wonder if Allah swt was protecting me from something that may not have been best for me. Even protection is a test: will I recognize it and be grateful?)

Getting married solely for the sake of Allah swt, hoping to earn His pleasure, learning how beloved obedience and kindness within marriage are to Him, falling in love with my husband, and then being separated after only a month yet still being given a life better than I could have imagined? Aazmaish.
(A better life after an almost traumatic experience? Yes, that too is a test. A test of being grateful while the heart still hurts. A test of trusting Him when nothing makes sense. A test of believing that what Allah chooses is always better than what I could have chosen for myself)

Strange to call these blessings and hardships by the same name?

For me, my Rabb tests me both by giving and by taking. He tests me when everything is going right to see whether I am grateful, and He tests me when everything seems to be going wrong to see whether I remain grateful.

Every trial is followed by relief, and every relief carries the possibility of another trial.

As long as I keep looking for the wisdom, the mercy, and the silver lining, it is all worth it.

So tell me, what has been your Aazmaish?

I scrolled on muzz for three days and I didn't like a single profile. I finally deleted it and started using jamaa, I can now focus on my scrolling without any expectations.

To the men here,

Before you open your mouth, think, "will I accept the same thing to be said to/about my mother, my sister?"

If the answer was no, then shut your fukin pie hole

Everyone talks about red flags 🚩

What’s a green flag that instantly makes you want to get to know someone better!?

Trying my luck

Before the Rishta Aunty finds me, I'm trying here first. 😅

If you know someone who's genuinely looking for marriage, send a referral or make a respectful introduction. Halal vibes only. 🌼🤍

Life partner applications are officially open. Wedding invite guaranteed, InshaAllah. ✨