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What’s your favorite food?

Looking for my person
not just a profile

I think the right person feels peaceful,
Not confusing,
Not inconsistent,
Not emotionally exhausting,
Just peaceful ...
Like coming home from a long journey
Like finally setting down a weight you forgot you were carrying.
Perhaps, real love is not intensity, perhaps it is rest.

Sometimes what we do doesn't always match what we want

But that is not a reason for us to do something bad ...,, because what we do will come back to the doer

What is certain is that from every incident there is a lesson that we can learn from

If she can’t sing like this I don’t want her

If you ever lose in life, lose like Cape Verde

Guys, when you genuinely like a woman are you still talking to others to see if there is a better option or do you just focus on the one?

Send me anything, depressed and bored

https://ngl.link/crumbcake

Good morning ! 😀
and a Happy 4th of July 🇺🇸

Rule, Britannia ! ...
Britannia ruled the waves… until independence became the one idea empires couldn’t fully contain.

Here’s the uncomfortable truth though. Many South Asian upbringings don’t actually produce independence.
They produce obedience that looks like discipline, and conformity that gets praised as “good character.”

From early on, the conditioning is consistent..
Don’t question authority, don’t challenge elders, don’t stand out, don’t break harmony, don't be different, don't invite shame.

Approval becomes the currency, through history, family, society, peers and social media apps.
“log kya kahenge”.

So what gets called “responsibility” is often just well-trained compliance.
What gets called “respect” is often fear of disruption.
What gets called “maturity” is often silence.

Then later, there’s a contradiction, let's say this place for example.
You demand an independent partner, strong, decisive, self-directed, that can think freely, act bravely, stand up for what's right and challenge the collective narrative you grew up in, but somehow still operate within a framework that punishes those exact traits when they’re inconvenient.

So are you actually selecting independence ?
Or selecting someone who conforms so smoothly it feels like independence ?

Because real independence isn’t aesthetic.
It’s costly, it challenges the system, it doesn’t always seek approval, it could end up isolating.

Happy Independence Day
(whenever you celebrate it)
Not just from empires, but from inherited thinking that still quietly chooses for you.