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Any psychologist or behavioural sociologist here? I've just had a difficult discussion with a colleague about an allegations of gender/age based discrimination against him. I'd welcome your thoughts on my observations. [This is not a religious discussion, so please refrain from turning it into one - the protagonists are not muslim]

This colleague is very insecure about his race and skin colour. I've heard several "complaints" from him about how he's not being treated fairly in various work situations. He interprets everything as racist. In this investigation, it has apparently come to light that he has been treating several staff members in a manner that could easily be construed as gender/age based discrimination, with witnesses.

It made me realise something.

Those people who are overly sensitive to the actions of others towards them (particularly on the issue of discrimination), usually tend to be extremely careless and negligent about the impact of their own actions towards others. They seem to be so absorbed in their own feelings/experiences/insecurities, that they just don't care about how their behaviour affects others. Have you observed this too?

Alternatively, could it be that because they themselves have experienced discrimination they (on a subconscious level) feel justified in inflicting it on others. A particularly memorable criminal psychology lecture came to my mind exploring research showing a heightened risk of abuse victims becoming abusers ("cycle of abuse"). I know that this is not inevitable and varies significantly by gender, and is heavily influenced by co-occurring factors like exposure to family violence. But, I wonder if victims of discrimination end up discriminating others for the same reasons as abuse victims abuse others.

From a behavioural sociology point of view, do you think that when a certain ethnic groups/community has suffered long-term marginalisation, segregation or discrimination, these "demons" (if you like) are so normalised to the extent that they are perceived as "demons" no more. This normalisation/desensitisation makes it easier for them to inflict it on others.

Any thoughts would be most welcome?

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Ay Mustafa ke nawaso, Ali ke dildaro, Tumhein Khuda ke ye bande salaam kehte hain."

This kalam is a humble salaam to the 72 loyal companions of Karbala. Among them, one verse mentions Hazrat Habib ibn Mazahir al-Asadi A.S the 75-year-old companion of the Holy Prophet S.A.W.W , devoted student of Imam Ali A.S.

When Imam Hussain A.S called, Habib A.S travelled overnight from Kufa to Karbala. The Imam said, "Habib, jihad is not obligatory on you, return."

He replied with tears: "My Master, how can I face the Holy Prophet S.A.W.W if I leave his grandson alone?"

On the morning of Ashura, this aged lover of Ahlulbayt A.S laid down his life reciting _"Ya Hussain". Imam Hussain A.S came to his body and said: "Habib, peace be upon you. You are indeed among the dwellers of Paradise."

This kalam honors all those dildaran-e-Ali whose loyalty had no age. Habib A.S remains a timeless example of love, sacrifice, and devotion.

Did you know your brain largely cannot tell the difference between something you vividly imagine and something that actually happened?
Researchers at UCL found that imagination and perception rely on overlapping brain circuits, and the brain encodes the strength or vividness of real and imagined experiences in a similar way, which can cause the two to blur together. (UCL, 2023)
There is even a well known study where people who simply imagined playing piano showed the same brain changes in the region connected to finger muscles as people who actually played piano.

This is part of why visualization works for athletes, why anxiety can feel so real even before anything has happened, and why your thoughts genuinely shape your emotional state.

What you keep replaying in your mind, your brain is quietly building as your reality. So have good thoughts people.

Maybe this is part of why there's such a big emphasis on staying grateful and hopeful in Islam.
Just something to think about 🤔

How do you manage your anger, what methods do you use to cool yourself down and be of a more relaxed mindset?

Please share your thoughts so others can make use of any helpful advice too. 🙏🏼

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If he wants ....,, then he will find a way
If he doesn't want to ....,, then he will find an excuse

It's that simple

Good evening everyone ☺️☺️