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Piety isn't sexually transmitted.

An upright brother marrying a street baddie, with the hopes of changing her ways after marriage is only deceiving himself

A conscious sister marrying an unreligious man, with the hopes of changing him after marriage will either remain stagnant spiritually herself, or go down the drain and become like him.

Birds of different feathers do not flock together.

Marry your kind, from your spiritual niche.

Many of the striving sisters who married carelessly ended up abandoning their JILBAAB for scarf.

Many of the striving brothers who compromised in their choice of spouse ended up becoming a shadow of themselves.

You can't sexually transmit righteousness to someone else.

People can abandon certain habits or some lifestyle traits because of their love for you, but they hardly change 100% because of you.

Whoever has to change completely can only do so for the sake of Allah, not for the sake of a mortal.

That's why some husbands who imposed the JILBAAB on ignorant ladies and married them off without having them learn Islam, once such men die or divorce them, the first thing such ladies would do is to dump the same Hijab.

Men have four attempts at marriage, if they get one wrong, they can correct their flaws in subsequent shots.

As a woman, you have only one shot, you have to hit the bull's eye by all means, if you get it wrong, you don't get another chance unless you pass through divorce ..

You can't afford to gamble with your choice of spouse. May Allah right our wrongs. Amin.

~ Aboo Banaat

First time in my life i like to stop myself of answer to someone of something that i really have a knockout answer like all the time. Is that will be a good thing if i approach the person from my side what if she made a bad image after the approach or what it today i leave it and one-day i feel bad for the decision that i made to leave.🤦 any assist will be appreciated maksi🐸.

"Looking for someone who fears Allah more than he fears losing me."

Personal vent::
But also a jewel i choose to share.
. Love yourself to the point that you never entertain listening to someone trying to get u to understand why your feelings don't matter...aka u need to understand something..whatever it is..If it makes u feel a way..and it's not Fard or. Sunnah..I don't care how they explain it or what the reason..You being irrational or not..Either u r important enough for them to acquiesce or not..Pay attention to who will make accommodations in everything outside of deen to see u happy n who won't.. Your spouse is half your deen...What comes before rhe deen??.
Miss me with everything else...Allahhualam

What makes a person decide to leave someone, only to repeatedly try to come back?

Perhaps they thought my life would be a living hell without them, not realizing that I always hold fast to the rope of Allah, and I can never return to something from which Allah has saved me.

https://youtu.be/sEEUgVzvH8w?si=y3FHnT3bbgLkGYdc

I need a woman fast 😭😭

Hey interested in marriage
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wtf is female ego? I’ll let him cry in my arms
Society made men out to be rocks.
Strong. Silent. Unbreakable.
But rocks crack.
Rocks get tired.
Rocks feel pain too.

Behind the strength is a heart that wants to be held, heard, and understood.
A heart that gets anxious, overwhelmed, and heavy.

Mens are human too.
Let them cry.
Let them be soft.
Let them be loved without being called weak.

Strength isn’t hiding how you feel.
Strength is having someone safe enough to feel it with.