All things marriage

hay friends

To who ever reads this,

As-salaam ‘ alaikum

Looking for the “right” person is ridiculously difficult.

I’ve learned to think outside the box and give people a chance, people who I usually wouldn’t. You’d be surprised once you turn off your own internal filter and just have open and honest conversations with people.

Hope you’re all having a good night, and I dare you to lower your barrier and just start connecting with others… you’ll be surprised that what you thought you wanted is quite different from what you initially thought.

Best

Femi

Hi 😊

Okay, so I matched with a guy on Muzz, and within 2–3 texts he was already asking for a call. He kept insisting, so… I just ghosted him. 😂
Am I the only one who finds it awkward to jump on a call with a complete stranger?
For me, the natural order is:
Text → Muzz call → Social media (if we’re both comfortable).
Texting is the icebreaker. It helps me get a sense of someone’s personality and makes me feel comfortable enough to eventually talk on a call. I’m naturally shy, so calling someone I barely know feels forced.
Maybe it’s because there are multiple options so they are not willing to put efforts. But I still think building a connection takes a little patience and effort.

Is it just me, or does anyone else feel the same?

💭 Be honest…

What’s one thing that instantly makes you lose interest in someone for marriage, even if everything else seems perfect?

No judging—just curious to hear different perspectives. 👀

Salamw alaikm Wa rahmatwlay Wa barakatw

I have questions why women doesn’t want stays home why are you sister want go work outside I just don’t get it what is the problem?

I have never thought I’ll end up in dating app where 99,9% of people aren’t serious and 1% good men are there thinking the other 1% hard to exists too, SubhanAllah
Walahi it’s very simple when someone is clear and clean, directed and know what they want,

Please stop trying people as your trail version, haram.

May Allah ease marriage way to the one who fears Allah without doubt 🤲🏻🌹

Salamw alaikm Wa rahmatwlay Wa barakatw

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InshaAllah my Allah make it easy if my queen come I’m trying go to Iraq drive all Europe but first to Eummra my Allah make it easy for all of us say amen 

Mahr is often cited as being equivalent to 480 dirhams, which is approximately 1,470g of silver.

To estimate its value today:

• -Check the current price of silver (for example, around £1.45 per gram in the UK).
• -Multiply the silver weight by the current price.

1,470g × £1.45 = approximately £2,131.50.

I'm sharing this to raise a couple of questions:

1. -

   If we aim to follow Islamic teachings, why do some families insist on extremely high mahr amounts that go far beyond the spirit of simplicity encouraged in Islam?

2. -

   A friend of mine went through a very difficult divorce. After his wife became pregnant, her family demanded an additional £10,000 worth of gold on top of the mahr that had already been agreed and paid. When he refused, the marriage broke down. Three years later, despite paying child maintenance, he has still not been allowed to see his child. He also says false allegations were made against him, and his ex-wife has since remarried.

Cases like this are heartbreaking—not just for the father, but especially for the child.

While I know these situations do not represent all women or all families, it is worth asking: why do some families treat marriage as a financial transaction rather than a partnership built on faith, compassion, and mutual respect? Islam teaches justice, kindness, and fairness to both spouses. When greed or financial demands become the priority, everyone involved can end up suffering.

I'd be interested to hear respectful perspectives on this issue.

Anyone from District bahawalnager